Post # 1
What do you all think of having a grooms shower?
FSIL wants to throw a shower for FH. Since she is the only girl she doesn’t have a sister to throw a shower for and really wants to throw a "man" shower. I don’t have a problem with this, and in fact I think it is thoughtful and can be fun. It would give the guys something to do and the groom can register for some things for just him.
The only problem I see is that this could come off appearing the wrong way. Will family feel like we are being greedy since I will be having a shower too or will the men really enjoy the chance to be included?
I was thinking that FSIL should work with my mom (who will be hosting my shower) to have them on the same day/at the same time. What do you all think?
Post # 3
I think it’s an awesome idea! And I don’t think you’ll look greedy at all; lots of brides have more than one shower, so why can’t the guy get a little attention too? Plus, I’m assuming they’ll probably buying him different gifts (manly gifts like electronics, sports stuff, etc…) so it’s not like you guys are even getting a lot of the same types of gifts. Let us know how it goes!
Post # 4
Huh…that’s really original. Are only guys going to be invited? So will there be games like at the bridal shower? Hmp…I dont see what’ swrong with it. Dont invite any of thye people you invite to your shower though…I would be irriated to get several invites to a shower for the same person.
I wonder why she just doesnt help your MOH? A man-shower doesnt seem like it would be the same thing as a bridal shower. The guys that I know would not bring gifts and would rather watch sports and drink beer together than play word games or dress up in toilette paper. Does she want to do something special for her brother or does she just want to through a "shower"?
Hope it works out.
Post # 5
Yes, there will only be men invited. I think she just wants to throw a shower but also she is really close to her brother so she wants to do something special for him. She wants him to register for a few manly things like a grill and cool kitchen gadgets (because he loves to cook). She said she would ask that guests bring gifts and there won’t be girly games like a typical shower.
She just threw this idea out last night. So, I wanted to see what everyone here thought before I take action. I eventually will talk to her and offer for her to have a shower for me for their family or for her to help my mom with mine (my mom would love the help) if that would be something she is interested in. BUT, I don’t want her to be offended in any way if she really wants to just do this for her brother (the groom).
Post # 6
How much of a manly man is your FH?
If it was me, I would rather jump in front of a moving truck than invite my guy friends to an event with the word "shower" in it. I would never hear the end of it… all my friends would be inviting me to a "shower" at their place for the rest of time.
But your FH could feel totally differently about it! And if it’s super important to his sister, than maybe that changes the equation too.
Is there any other way she could do something special for him… maybe an engagement party for both of you, rather than a shower for each?
Post # 7
One of my best friend’s brother got married last year, and his friends had a man shower for him. I think they basically made it a big "man" event (BBQ’ing, Beer, Outdoor games) and I know that he registered at Sears for all of the tools that he wanted. He said it was a lot of fun; basically just all of his male friends, coworkers, and a few dad’s hanging out for a BBQ. I know they recieved a ton of tools.
Post # 8
I think it’s a great idea – how sweet of your FSIL to think of it! I just found a post on http://www.aisledash.com where instead of calling it a "shower", the groom titled it a "Mansoon" 🙂 It could be themed to whatever your FI’s interests are: tools, sports, rock music…etc. A fun idea I found on another site was to serve food in "man dishes", like serving nachos/chips in a toolbox or fishing tackle box. I wouldn’t worry about it "coming off the wrong way", I know many brides who have had several showers (& been invited to more than one for the same bride). If your FI just has guys at his "Mansoon", well then I would guess that they would not be invited to a shower that would be thrown for you….it’s a super fun idea…I’m going to share it with my guy!
Post # 9
How does your FI feel about this? My husband’s friends and brothers would laugh their a**es off if he had had a "man shower". Then again, they are all manly hockey players.
I vote, "no".
Post # 10
I think in theory it is a great idea but my FI is like Mr. Bee – he would not be caught dead at anything having to do with a "shower." How does your FI feel about it?
Post # 12
That is always a good option too – to have a combined male/female shower. Usually those are held at night and is more of a cocktail party.
Post # 13
Thanks for the suggestions. FSIL would not call it a shower on the invite. I am going to leave the ball in her field and she can work it out with FI. I would imagine she would do this tastefully. She is married herself, so I think she will have some input from her husband as well. And since FI’s brother is getting married 2 weeks before us it would be a joint "party" or "mansoon" and probably have more family than friends.