(Closed) A mildly amusing waiting story/commiseration time plz

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
219 posts
Helper bee

Yes, we can definitely all relate to this.. at least I can.

I have a daughter and when I get phone calls from doctors,schools,etc.. they call me “Mrs.hislastname” or ask for “Mrs.hislastname” I obviously have to correct them because when they mail something to me it has to be my last name. I just can’t wait until I can say “Yes, This is Mrs. Hislastname” hahaha, also my daughter and him share a last name.. I wouldn’t mind having it too.. hehehe.

On another note, I wish we had fish fries every Friday! That would be awesome!

Post # 4
1851 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I totally get this! I am so ready to be Mrs. Hislastname. If we were in more of a “community” type place, I bet I’d feel this way worse. I dream of the little yard signs that say that the HisLastNames live there. *sigh

Post # 6
1740 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I can’t wait to have his last name.  My last name is the last thing that connects me to my abusive, psychotic, stalking father who happens to work in the same town, in another department of the college campus where I, too, work (it’s one of the few places in town with a position for my degree).  It’s humiliating to be asked if I’m so-and-so’s daughter and not have to bald-face lie at some point in the conversation – we haven’t spoken in 15 years, he’s nuts, but it’s not easy to see unless you’re family, and many people think he’s a “great guy”.  I shouldn’t have to lie about it, but there’s no “polite” way to ay yes, I’m related, no we don’t talk, the a$$hole disowned me at 19 and proceeded to try to humiliate me in every way possible to ensure I would ahve to “crawl back to him in a fit of depression” and that he’d fulfilled his “Christian duty.” (not knocking Christians, but my father – his interpretation of the Bible is insane)

I try to keep it short, and not divulge anything, but it’s hard when people press about, “how’s he doing?”  or even more involved questions, all in the name of making conversation.  I am PR for my department, so I must be charming and charismatic in all exhcnages and I HATE this.  I also hate the assumption from people who DO find out I was kicked out that I must have been some rebellious chid (I was a full scholarship honor student in college who was in the church choir and didn’t smoke, drink or do drugs, and gasp! was a virgin until I’d been with the same (and only) man for over 2 years and we’re still together, just not married)

If I had a different last name, I’d be free of this, I’d be my SO’s wife and next-of-kin and my father would no longer have any foothold in my life.  It’s also save the mbarrassing moments with I’m introduced with his last name and have to correct people, red faced. 

Post # 7
2894 posts
Sugar bee

We went on vacation in Cancun last year and apparently EVERYONE we encountered played it safe and would address us by Mr. and Mrs. whichever last name they just heard regardless of who it belonged to. They were constantly calling him my husband. After a day it was just easier to nod and roll with it rather than spending the time to correct them or point out neither of us was wearing a ring. 🙂

Post # 8
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I never get called “Mrs. HisLastName” (although some of his friends do jokingly call us “The HisLastNames” grrr) but he get’s called “Mr. MyLastName” all the time. 😀 A bunch of bills and cards and such are in my name so when he calls to speak to someone they invariably call him that at some point. I find it hilarious. 🙂

Post # 9
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Kant: I can totally understand how you feel, I can’t wait to share the same last name! Although I haven’t really had any situations like that… Probably because we don’t live together I guess. I’d still like to have the same name though LOL!

Does anyone else have their new signature all ready to go?? Or is it just me that has practised what my new signature will be? If the signature doesn’t look right then I don’t know about this marriage thing…. LOL JK!

Post # 10
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

@Miss Marbles: I despise the child having a different last name than me. “Hi, Mrs. K?” “No, but this is Annabelle’s mom.”

Post # 11
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I can totally relate! I’m “in limbo.” I am changing my name and I have a new drivers license, insurance cards, and ss card… but I haven’t managed to make the change anywhere else though. Already in just a few weeks it has been SO annoying/confusing to know how to introduce myself or how to pay for things or whatever. Example, at the pharmacy: 

me: Hi– I’m picking up a prescription. It is under Corgi MyLast. But um, I have new insurance. And a new name. Because I got married…


me: sorry…

him: so the name on the insurance card is your new name? 

me: yes. 

him: do you have anything with your old name? 

me: my credit cards?

him: not your drivers license?

me: no..

him: sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh


argh. I can’t wait for everything to get switched over!

Post # 12
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I totally can’t wait to be married and change my name. My last name is a pretty popular last name in my culture and whenever ppl find out what it is they ask me if I’m related to someone they know what that last name (and EVERYBODY knows someone with my last name!) and it just brings up tons of questions all the time. I would get ppl msging me all the time (on Facebook, ICQ (back in the day), MSN ect.) thinking I was someone else.

When SO and I bought our house, the previous owners left a letter addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. Hislastname” – even though we had both of our full names on all of the negotiations and contracts that they signed. We laughed at it – but it did make me wish more that I already had his last name.

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