- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
My Fiance and I have been together a while. Engaged six months.
We haven’t even started planning anything because of my family drama.
He is joining the military… and nominating me as a defacto is proving to be a pain in the butt.
We have the option of being in a registered relationship, I will be his legal Spouse in New South Wales but we doubt this will be enough for the Army. We may as well just get married, we want to do this anyway… just timing is a great big pain.
We are in the process of sorting all his paperwork out now… The recruiting unit said he could be gone in about 6 weeks, and then he’ll be gone for months… He could be gone a long while.
It would be easier just to get married… which he has always wanted to do before he goes away.
But he wants a proper wedding ??? I dont really care. I am not into the big wedding thing and my family at the moment is a complete catastrophe.
IF (now this could be a big IF) this were to happen… I like the idea of a civil ceremony not a registry office… and I want a dress… immediate family and close friends only… and then we can do a party/reception later… So do a ceremony, take a couple of photos, and go out for dinner or something… or just have our own small party…
Problem, is none of my family can be in the same room as each other. My parents are in the middle of divorce court, and their property settlement… my brothers are fighting… So i want to just grab a couple of mates and get hitched and work it out later.
Now my father wants to be able to contribute, but wont be able to do that until his property settlement is finalised… which will be in about three months, if it isnt deferred again. Too late for the army… My Fiance will be well and truly gone by then. And I am tired of my parents crap dictating what we want to do. I don’t want to wait around for them, when they’ve been like this for years.
I also dont really want my dad to be there, with this new Bimbo he’s seeing. She’s a bit of a tart, and leading him by the trousers, and i just dont want it there on my wedding day. I want my younger brother there, but he wont have anything to do with my father, and he is fighting with my brother. Between my two brothers its just ugly… But my younger brother is going in for major surgery soon and will be stuck in hospital for the next 6 – 8 weeks L I can invite him but not her… then what about my brothers… My younger bro will be in hospital… and my elder bro is being a pain too… I just don’t want to invite one without the other, when I’m getting a bit sick of the lot of them. Its either all of them or none of them.
So I just want to get married… say we are married now, done, see ya bye.
So a civil ceremony, I dont want an aisle… cos I dont want to be walked down it. Just a group of mates, in a garden, a few glasses of champagne and toasts, maybe a little cake with the bride and groom toppers… Grab a few super tasteful photos with a pro photographer… and send him off on the bus. So yeah, a garden in winter? Or what other ideas can we do for a winter civil ceremony for a handful of guests?
But will this offend my family members??
People have been asking us about our wedding, when / where it will be etc etc… They’re more excited about it than I. I’m dreading it.
Where do I find a dress in six weeks? I want a sheath gown in Sydney… I have been looking and cant find anything. There’s plenty of ball gowns around and mermaid trumpet gowns… which I would look ridiculous in. I’m tall and skinny… I want a lace gown, V neck, chapel train… not strapless!!!
Plus we don’t have a huge budget.