(Closed) A mother and MIL can make this pretty awkward…

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That sounds really weird. I don’t think I’ve ever been to a bachelorette where parents/grandparents were invited. I guess maybe I would just explain to the girls that your mothers/grandmothers are very conservative and wouldn’t be comfortable at a party with drinking. 

Post # 4
5758 posts
Bee Keeper

I didn’t want MINE there so never expected to go to the ones for my daughter’s either. Tell them you aren’t comfortable with them being there and that should be the end of it. They’ll get over it.

Post # 5
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For a friend’s bach party we had dinner with the moms before and then went out partying without them. That way they were still involved, but sent home before the real debauchery began. 😉 Do you think you could have that kind of compromise with FI’s family?

Post # 6
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Definitely tell your girls that you don’t want certain people invited. It’s not going to be fun if you “allow” them to come. It’s your party not theirs. And I feel like they should have sense enough not to go even if they were invited (but I come from a circle of friends that never invite parents). And they always ask the bride first if they want us to invite the SIL as well. Some people are fine with it, some would cringe!

Post # 8
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve been part of several that included the bridal shower beforehand, food, cake, games with the whole crew, then the “adults” went home and the rest of us rocked out the rest of the evening elsewhere.  SOme of the “adults” joined as at the bar, but they were totally cool with what was going on!

How about compromise with them…or maybe have 2?  A tame version with family, and a crazy versiopn with everyone else?

Post # 9
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe do a bridal lunch with the girls + moms but definately do not include them in the festivities of a bachlorette party!! That is just bizarre to me!

Post # 10
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I have no idea why you would accomodate them.  Your girlfriends are hosting, yes?  Then it’s THEIR call who they invite.  So just don’t invite the Future Mother-In-Law and FGMIL or your mom.  Your friends could take the heat and say THEY feel really uncomfortable because they had some fun things planned for just you and them.

Mothers belong at showers, not B-parties!

Post # 12
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Oh YIKES.  That would be hard.

I like the idea of letting your Maid/Matron of Honor take this one.  Maybe she can explain to them that she doesn’t want the older women there if everyone will be getting drunk and dancing with penis balloons.  If I were them I would say it was the MOH’s “fault” they weren’t invited and leave it at that.

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