- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
So I want to start off by saying this was all entirely my own fault, because I am terrible about being assertive. My best friend called me up today and asked if I could accompany her to the craft store, as she needed an opinion on something. She drove over to our apartment to pick me up, and as soon as I got in the car she said that she’d lied, we were going to get our nails done, because my SO is apparently proposing to me tomorrow.
I’d sort of figured that tomorrow was the day, and I appreciated her wanting to help me make sure my nails look nice. In anticipation, I’d filed and buffed them a bit on Friday, and have been using a lot of hand lotion. I should say here that I’m not one that really ever paints my nails, and have only had two manicures in my life. But, it was sweet that she wanted to do that with me, so off we went.
Because I so rarely wear polish, I wanted to find something that looked pretty but natural. My friend had scheduled us both for shellac manicures, so I had one shelf I had to pick colors from. She kept saying that it was a really big deal to make sure I liked the end result, and I think that really built it up in my head so I put a lot of pressure on it. I found a lightish pink that on the demo nails was a neutral sort of color, and didn’t look bad. What I didn’t realize is that, once on my nails, it became this really sheer sort of dipped your fingers in red kool-aid color. It was like a slightly red clear gloss. Not good.
Unfortantely, I have a really hard time being assertive, so let the lady finish. I had a hard time trying to explain to her what I’d wanted, and we never did manage to get it. I was hoping for a non-shimmery neutral tanish-pink tone that had a creamy (rather than sheer) base so you couldn’t see the color of my own nails through it. Apparently it doesn’t exist. We even tried looking at regular polishes to put over the shellac, and all of the shades that I liked were too sheer. The manicurist ended up grapping a pale cream color and putting it on, and by that point I was frustrated and exhausted so I went along with it.
I feel awful for not being more assertive during the process, because now I’m stuck with nails that I really really don’t like. I realized on the way home that, if I’m not the type of girl who paints her nails, why does the prospect of getting engaged tomorrow mean that I should change that? So, tomorrow morning I’m going to another salon to get it all taken off and a clear polish put on. I feel terrible about the whole thing, especially because my friend tried so hard to help! She was also teasing me a bit about hopefully not being this way about other, bigger decisions, but I think that for those, I’ll have actually thought about them and done research before hand. This one was completely sprung on me, and isn’t something I care about at all normally.
So, thanks for reading. I feel so dumb for getting worked up about the whole thing, but figured someone out there would understand.