Post # 1
My wedding was this past Saturday, and I have a few pieces of advice to share.
1. Put down the magazines and immediately forget everything you’ve ever learned about weddings. This will count among the most important days in your life, and if you want to have a memorable day and throw a great party, you’ll need to make sure you plan it on your own terms, in your own style. Make it your own. We completely threw away convention and tradition and crafted the wedding of our dreams that was well within our budget, and we were ridiculously and deliriously happy the entire day. And everyone had a ball because of it. And the pictures show it.
2. Keep your ideas to yourself, or share them only with people who are truly going to embrace your vision. Don’t give people a chance to sway you or tell you that your vision is wrong. This is your wedding.
3. ENJOY the process and be truly present for it. If you don’t enjoy making the small decisions, you’re not going to enjoy the big day nearly as much. And be present the day of your wedding. I heard time after time that the day will fly past. Well, it didn’t for me. It lasted and lasted and lasted, and I loved every second of it. And yes, things certainly did go wrong. But if you can roll with it and focus on the marriage (not the wedding), the little things won’t matter.
4. Plan your honeymoon for a week or two after the wedding. It’s easier when you’re not planning two major events that are pretty much simultaneous.
That’s all. Thanks for all the feedback lo these many months, and I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Post # 3
Great advice! Thanks so much for sharing, I especially relate to #2.
Do you have pictures?
Post # 4
Great advice! I have to keep saying this to myself as the date gets closer and closer..
Post # 5
Congratulations! I second everything you say, especially #1.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I like all of your points, but I think the big draw of having your honeymoon right after your wedding is you don’t have to go back to reality yet 🙂 I saw a girl that got married the night before in Target with her new husband and it just totally freaked me out — yesterday she was the center of the world and today she’s buying toothpaste at Target. I want to avoid that 🙂
Post # 7
We didn’t go on a honeymoon yet because we had to move right after the wedding so I agree that planning 2 things at the same time isn’t fun (we were planning the move). Congrats!
Post # 8
Great advice! As a newlywed couple ourselves, I’d have to say I agree with you. I wish my wedding day didn’t FLY by! I’m so upset about that!
Post # 9
I think I’m with Miss Ribbons on the honeymoon! I think you really make great points, but after a really stressful time planning, the honeymoon directly after was my salvation!! It was by far the most relaxing trip I had ever taken, and I think it just felt great to go from the whirlwind to the relaxation so quickly.
Great points otherwise! And congratulations on your marriage!
Post # 11
I think you make some great points. Maybe I just don’t get invited to any amazingly fabulous weddings, but I have never been to a wedding that looks like something I see on most blogs or wedding magazines. The amazing thing- they’ve always been a lot of fun and filled with love.
As for the honeymoon- to each their own. My FI doesn’t have a choice, he has to be back a couple of days after we are married, and his schedule doesn’t allow for a honeymoon until 12 weeks after the wedding. In some ways it will be nice- we can reflect upon the event and how life has/has not changed and not be so exhausted from wedding craziness.