Post # 1
FH and I have a mutual friend who isn’t really a friend, but an old acquaintance who sometimes we see at parties, etc. A few months ago, we were at a wedding he was at (only b/c he works with the groom) and asked us a few questions about our wedding. As we all know, as someone planning a wedding, people are constantly asking questions about the wedding, so I didn’t think anything of it. (Background: This individual has a history of inserting himself into the picture and inviting himself to a LOT of stuff)….
Today he messaged me and asked if his invite had been “lost in the mail,” since “we were talking about the wedding at X’s wedding.” I kid you not. He was not invited (for several reasons)…what do I do? How do I respond????
Help! Super awkward moment.
Post # 3
tell him you guys are limiting to close family and friends?
Post # 4
Blame it on the venue. Say you’re at maximum capacity and can’t invite anyone else.
Post # 5
Yup, I’d go with the old standby excuse of venue capacity limitations or “intimate family and friends gathering” – unless, of course, that isn’t remotely true and you know the information will get back to him somehow (through people or photos or whatnot).
Post # 6
I tell people sorry, it’s a small wedding. Or something along those lines…
Post # 7
I’d say its immediate family and only close friends.. im sure theyd understand..
we ran into the SAME problem and thats what we said and people seemed to respond fine to it..
Post # 8
Exactly. Tell him you’re keeping it to “family and close friends” and leave it at that.
Post # 9
I had an old friend that I haven’t really kept in good touch with invite himself to my wedding. He even sent me his address without my asking for it. At the time, we were planning on keeping it really small and I didn’t know what we were going to do. I was planning on telling him the truth – that we were keeping things really small. I don’t think he would have been offended, but I still would have felt bad.
Then we decided to make it bigger, so he will be invited now. Not because he invited himself, though. I say just be honest about it. I mean, don’t give the whole laundry list of reasons that might stir up drama. But don’t lie about it either. The truth can be told in a way that doesn’t cause trouble. And if he gets upset about it, then it’s his problem and not yours.
Post # 10
Yup, small wedding works every time.
Post # 11
Thanks guys! He’s going to know that some of the “guys” in that group are invited, but those are the ones that are our FRIENDS, not the people that call whenever the chance of drinking their face off comes up (and he needs a ride…)….