- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I wrote a note that I intended to post on facebook or our wedding website for our friends and family (only a very limited number of people) to see as some of them have become out of hand with the amount of butting in they’ve done with respect to the wedding planning, but decided to post here instead to get it off my chest. Clearly I’m far too overwhelmed!
Much of it is directed at my future MIL, but really a bunch of people have been guilty of this (though no one on my side of the family) and though it is intended to be comical, it’s also supposed to be serious:
As a non-traditional girl embarking on this whole adventure of planning a wedding, there are things that have come up that I never expected, but have in some way or another caused stress, grief or misunderstandings that we would like to avoid if at all possible in the future. I will be adding to this list as time goes on to reflect new things that come up, so feel free to check back for some additional amusement.
1. Please, please, please! …stop referring to our wedding as my/our “special” day. There is nothing that sounds more saccharine in all of the world as that phrase! It is our wedding, so please refer to it as such.
2. We are non-traditional people. We are planning a non-traditional wedding. (In fact, we are pretty oblivious when it comes to the many “traditions” related to weddings — I doubt we even know half of them!) Therefore, please don’t be offended when we laugh at your suggestions or stand our ground with respect to our plans. And please, do not expect things to follow tradition. You will be sorely disappointed.
3. My sister may not be a proponent of marriage, but no one else that I know would dare fly 14,000 miles in the middle of doing their PhD dissertation project to be at my wedding. If anyone deserves a maid of honor title, it would be her, but alas, she is 14,000 miles away and will therefore be unable to be apart of any pre-wedding merriment that may or may not take place. Not to mention, given my appreciation for her even making the effort to be at our wedding, I wouldn’t dare put her through that which a person with such a title would have to endure.
4. We are planning a wedding that we are pretty certain that everyone will love in a place that is sure to put a giddy smile on everybody’s face – please don’t make us feel like we are pulling teeth and forcing you to do something that is going to be a miserable experience. Just relax, bite your tongue and breathe…you WILL enjoy it!
5. Last, but by far the most important — this is OUR wedding! (…and we definitely only plan on having one in our lives!) We are doing our best to accommodate the people we care about for our wedding and reception, so please put your personal tastes, preferences and opinions on hold for us for our wedding week so that it can be an enjoyable experience for all. It would be shame for us to remember that you were someone who caused a fight or tears while planning our wedding much less at our wedding. I know I have been extremely flexible and accommodating when attending other people’s weddings (and everyone knows I’ve traveled far and wide to be with the people I care about on their wedding day), so we’d like to request that everyone be flexible and accommodating as we plan the wedding of our dreams.
We really appreciate your cooperation and hope that we can one day laugh about all of this! 🙂