(Closed) A Note: Wedding Guidelines for Friends & Family

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It’s great for you to vent on here, but I would avoid posting that on facebook or your wedding website.  It will cause a lot of unneccesary drama pre-wedding.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is a good note, but please don’t share this with the offenders. As much as they probably deserve to read it, it will only cause more drama.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s fine that you know how you feel, and can articulate it…but it’s probably best to keep quiet.  Also don’t laugh at people’s suggestions!  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yikes. Do NOT post that on facebook or your wedding website. Your friends and family are good intentioned. This will only bring drama. And personally, I’d be really insulted if I was your MOH or a guest that may have an issue with your location. 

Post # 8
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5548 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

As glad as I am for you to get that off your chest, passive aggressive posts like that are just going to make.more drama for you then it will fix.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I totally read it as “I intend” not, “I intended”.  YES, good girl for not posting it!!!

I think the best way to deal with it is to say, “Thanks for the idea!  I will talk to Fiance.”  And then just ignore it.  

Post # 10
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5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I would be extremely offended if I were a guest and I read that note.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sheltervet:  Are you paying for it all? If so, then ignore everyone. It’s your money, so spend it how you want. If you are not paying for it or if your or his parents are putting in at least half, you should be obligated to listen to their wants and needs.

Traditions are not necessarily a bad thing. It doesn’t hurt to hear them out and then walk away from it. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sheltervet:  Oh jesh! I would personally throw my hands in the air and just not speak of the wedding until it was like two weeks before. LOL. For a 10 person wedding, you shouldn’t have this much drama! 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Haha, wow that sure was some letter, especially for a wedding of less than 10 people! I couldn’t imagine someone trying to make a ruckus over such a small, inimate affair – though I assume if they wanted you to have a big shin-dig of a wedding I could see how it could cause drama. Glad you were able to vent here.

As for the “special” day thing, I would just smile and say “yes, our wedding day will be one of many special days in our lives.”

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Rude and offensive and it makes you sound controlling bridezilla. I’m sure your inlaws would be thrilled for their side of the guest list to see that. You can set boundaries and tell people to but out in a polite way.

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