Post # 1
Dear wedding planners,
I am going to come right out and say it. I am a vegetarian.
I am not a picky vegetarian, but alas, I am one. And suffice it to say, odds are, I’m not the only one in attendance at your wedding. For the love of all that is yummy, please please please please please keep us in mind, even slightly, when planning your food selections. I have been to a grand total of 12 weddings, and have never had more than a side salad and steamed vegetables as my meal (sometimes less, like the recent one where I had lettuce). I’m not asking for you to spend oodles on an extra entree of tofu-couscous-hummus-paste topped with lentils and imitation meat by-product that no one else will eat but me. I’m more asking for the consideration of your non-meat eating guests. Serving italian? Throw in a pasta! Mexican? How about some rice and beans?
It’s quite simple to cover your bases here without changing your menu or making your carnivorous guests go hungry; simply add one non-meat protein or starch somewhere on the menu (think: eggplant parmesan, pasta, hearty salads, tortellini, brushetta, portobello mushrooms, etc.) and we’ll be happy campers, promise. We can even make-do with side dishes, so you don’t even have to sacrifice an entree (recent wedding served pork tamales, chicken, and a side of beans made with bacon, not even the chance to pull a meal out of it).
Not only will this make us smile ear-to-ear, but chances are you have guests attending who are dieting, who don’t eat red meat, or who may not be in the mood for a meat as their main course, so considering us doesn’t mean you’ll only be feeding us veg-heads, you probably will find your other guests will enjoy the variety as well.
Consider this a plea from vegetarians everywhere!
Post # 3
I hear ya girl! I’m not a vegetarian, but my sister and FI’s sister are both vegetarians, so we always have to consider them for family gathers. We also have lots of friends who are Muslim or other religions that don’t eat certain meats. I think it’s totally rude for couples/hosts not to have a substantial (by substantial, I mean enough food to fill a vegetarian) amount of vegetarian options. Thanks for sending out a reminder!
Post # 4
I have an aunt who is vegan and my uncle is only allowed to eat vegan-type food while she is present (and she only allows their children to eat vegan food) so although I really don’t like her personally, I respect her eating decisions and have researched/picked out vegan friendly food that I will identify at our wedding for them. We have a couple of friends with severe nut allergies and so I’ve made sure we’re clear of foods with that too!
While those are the only people that we are aware of that have eating “issues” (I don’t know what else to call it, sorry!) I kept in mind that there may be more people than I/we know about. Basically, we’ve decided to have a pasta salad, salad and tea sandwich lunch with fruit and veggies. Should work well with the anticipated hot weather too!
Post # 5
I can’t speak for every venue, but with mine, if we wanted wanted to add a 3rd vegetarian option (even a simple pasta) it was going to be an extra $40 PER GUEST invited, which was a lot when we know only one vegetarian out of our of our 272 guests, so we opted to not add it I’m sure that was the reason behind the 12 weddings you went to without a veggie option. Ultimately, we decided red meat will make the foodies happy, and there is grilled chicken for dieters/non red meat lovers. And between the cocktail hour apps, bread basket, starter salad, the steamed veggies & mashed potatoes that come with the entree, and dessert our 1 vegetarian friend should have enough to nosh on.
If we had the money we DEF would have added one, but venues make it so hard!
Post # 6
I know that several of the venues I looked at allowed a maximum of 2 choices when doing plated entrees. Perhaps it is different for a buffet or if you are allowed 3 options, but when options are limited, I would give my guests more than one choice of a meat dinner.
Post # 7
I’ve encountered this problem a couple of times. Even at a parent’s wedding…but, on both occasions the waiters asked me what I would eat, since I declined to eat the meat options. The waiters served me a meatless dish. Now that I think about it…did that cost the hosts extra? I would hope and imagine not. We were not given a choice on the RSVP (I don’t think everyone does).
I have friends who are meat crazy…seriously, I’m amazed that they’re still standing sometimes, but at their wedding they offered eggplant parm. I totally agree that we shouldn’t assume that everyone’s diet is like our own; perhaps it was a slight oversight. I won’t only be serving tofu and spinach pie at my wedding, so it would be nice if others thought of me too.
Post # 8
I agree 100%!!! I’m a vegetarian too and out of all the weddings i’ve been to, only one had a vegetarian option. I’m fairly certain that the one that did serve a veg meal to me only happened because my fiance actually called up the groom to ask if there was an option (we were sending the RSVP back and it only had chicken or beef listed, so he called his friend to ask) It was very nice of them to make sure I had a meal, but I don’t thinnk anyone ever did a tasting. I got a plate of noodles with steamed vegetables on top. No sauce, no butter, nothing. It. was. so. bland! I ended up just eating my fiance’s side items.
Sigh. Now I usually just eat dinner before I go to weddings or pack something in my bag.
I’m vegetarian, but I don’t want to starve!!!
I’m having an entirely vegetarian wedding. We’re doing hors dourves and I want to be able try a bit of everything available and our food will be delicious. YAY!
Post # 9
FI and I are both vegetarians, so all our h’ours dourves and one of our main courses will be vegetarians. There will be at least four vegetatians there so we are totally covered. I think I’m going to have a gluten free option too. I have three friends with gluten allergies. Luckily in my area there seems to be a pasta bar trend at weddings, so I’ve been able to eat it. I feel your pain though.
Post # 10
We don’t have any vegetarians on our guest list (its easy to know this for a fact when you only invite 85 people) but we are still offering pasta primavera for those who would prefer to have a lighter meal option, opposed to the huge steak or chicken cordon blue. In my experience, most decent venues won’t have a problem throwing together a simple pasta dish for the 1 or 2 vegetarians in the crowd. I’m sure there are some venues that won’t do this but alot of the ones that we visited would.
Post # 11
lol Thanks for posting this! I myself am not a vegetarian, but I still prefer lighter fare at weddings and special events and would probably go with a vegetarian option. It seems like at so many weddings, it’s either chicken or steak!
Our wedding is going to be pretty informal, so we’re going to have a taco bar with lots of vegetarian options, as well as meat for those who want it.
Post # 12
While I’m not vegetarian, I have been eating less meat lately. We have 6 vegetarians who will be attending and I know all will eat fish. For the food options we are offering steak, trout and a beggar’s purse (root veggies in filo) as the options. When we did our tasting the beggar’s purse (the vegetarian option) was the best tasting of the bunch. We also made sure to have a mix of vegetarian and meat options with the appetizers. I can’t believe you were only given lettuce at one wedding-it just amazes me that there wasn’t another option.
Post # 13
@MissDallasCowboy: For real? I dont get how they can do that. They would probably prefer for everyone to order vegetarian because its often less cost of goods than a steak!
I was a veggie for 9 years, but I never had a problem with meals at weddings. However, I would also like to add that I have never been a big pasta eater (always watching the weight) and wished that the veggie option was something more than pasta with veggies… it was ALWAYS that. But at least there was something!
Post # 14
@StarryNight2011: Then they are pescatarians… A vegetarian wont even eat fish. Are you sure they will eat fish?
Post # 15
My FI and I love meat, but we made sure to build in plenty of vegetarian options. We are doing family style, so this helps matters too. We’ll have our beef and seafood but our sides will be a nice salad (with nuts, fruit, and blue cheese), mushroom ravioli with seasonal sauteed veggies, mashed potatoes and asparagus. We are still working on our app choices but I believe we will be having at least 2 or 3 vegetarian choices like fresh mozzarella & tomato skewers, fig and manchego cups, and the standard cheese platter. My sister is a vegetarian, but really I’d just call her a carb addict. All she’ll eat that day is bread, potatoes, and some cheese so most of the menu items I didn’t add for her. lol
Post # 16
My friend (who is a vegetarian) got married just over two years ago, and now that I think about it – there may not have been a meat at all. It was a buffet, and actually I think there may have been a chicken option, but I’m pretty sure that was it. Nobody even noticed. Obviously I didn’t.
Our wedding will be in food stations, not a plated meal, so people can have whatever they want. I don’t anticipate a problem.