Post # 1
So, my church wedding coordinator is hard to get a hold of for my questions. Before I ask the three people to do the readings I want to know if having three readings is actually what you do at a catholic ceremony even if it’s not a full mass. We are only having the ceremony, or “rite” of marriage aka the quick version. So three readings still? And also if I need to choose three people can any of those people be a bridesmaid, groomsmen? Not sure if it’s supposed to be others or if it’s acceptable to have the wedding party members leave the line up to go to the podium. ??
Post # 3
We didn’t do a full mass, but only had 2 readings – same at other Catholic/non-Catholic weddings I’ve been to. Definitely something to check on.
I think it’s fine to choose out of the bridal party to read, but I imagine it’s more common to “spread the love” – we each had a close uncle read, but most usually seem to pick other friends or close relatives not in the Bridal Party.
Post # 4
We are having a full mass and only have 2 readings.
Post # 5
There are three readings at Catholic weddings (with or without Mass), but only two of them are done by people the couple chooses. You have an Old Testament reading and a New Testament reading (you choose the readers). If you’re having Mass, the readers are supposed to be practicing Catholics – but in most parishes they don’t usually check up on that. If you’re not having a full Mass, I think you can ask anyone to read. Then there will be a third reading from the Gospels, but the priest always does that reading.
In between the OT and NT readings there is also a responsorial Psalm. Usually it is set to music and will be sung by the cantor/soloist (or you can ask a family member to sing it, etc.) If you don’t have anyone to sing, it’s also fine to have someone read it. The Psalm, if you do it as a reading, is very short – usually 3-4 verses of 2-4 lines each.
OP: has anyone at your church given you the Together for Life booklet? It is very helpful in sorting out what you need to include in your wedding, and it goes over what to do for weddings outside of Mass.