- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I am in a little bit of a pickle.
How do you tell a family friend who is a photogapher that you went with someone else?
The whole story:
A family friend of my FI’s is a wedding photographer, and a good one at that. When I got engaged, pretty much his whole family assumed that I would be using her.
After we picked out our venue and our date, I asked his parents to talk to her and get an idea as to whether she would be available and what kind of price she would charge (I have never met her).
FMIL told me that she would be moving before then and gave me her minimum price. Unfortunately, that price was too high for our budget. Nonetheless, my FMIL encouraged me to contact her and talk to her myself.
I reached out to her via email, and didn’t hear back for a few weeks. Meanwhile I spent that time shopping around and falling in love with another photographer’s pictures in our price range.
Things started to get a little more serious with the other photographer (haha!), and we started sharing ideas, setting up a meetings so he could get to know the groom and myself, and eventually it led to a contract.
After 2 weeks, I got an email back from Photographer 1 asking me to call her. I called her a couple of times and left a voice mail. Meanwhile, I held back in signing on the contract with Photographer 2 as I definitely wanted to talk Photographer 1 before committing.
2 more weeks went by. I assumed that maybe with the move, Photographer 1 really wasn’t all that interested and perhaps aware that she was out of our price range. I figured I led photographer 2 along for too long, so I signed the contract and was in photography bliss.
Then, today, I got an email from Photographer 1 apologizing for how unresponsive she has been. She said she was still very excited about our wedding and still wants to talk to me about it tonight if I’m around.
So how to I explain to her I went with someone else without hurting her relationship with FH’s family?