Post # 1
Did anyone having or did anyone have someone walk them out to their first look?
I know, it sounds weird. So, my mom is pretty apathetic to my wedding planning…but something she was oddly excited about was being there when we (I am letting her walk me down the aisle because my dad won’t be there) walk down the aisle. This isn’t going to be a huge deal, but special in it’s own way because all along I have been planning on doing a first look.
She finally figured out that we would see each other before the ceremony the other day, even though I have mentioned it many times before. I am really looking forward to our first look because I like the intimacy of them and I am really insistent that our whole bridal party isn’t just standing around us making everything awkward. So, my mom got mad about the first look because she wanted to be there when we first saw each other to, I don’t know, see my fiance cry?
Now she is insisting that she can just walk me out to the first look. But I really had my heart set on it just being me, fiance, and our photog. Because I think it’ll be weird with her just standing there too. I know I should just talk to her about it, but we already have fights over the dumbest stuff (like her wanting to sit next to me at our head table with the rest of our bridal party, but FI’s parents wouldn’t be up there).
Any advice or anyone actually having anyone go with them to their first look?
Post # 3
It was just the two of us at the first look. But trust me, walking down the aisle toward his is still special after the first look so your mom isn’t missing out on anything.
Post # 4
I am doing a first look and agree with you, I want it to just be my Fiance and me. Our bridal party will be in a different area, so it will just be us 3.
I think you could do a little convincing that walking you down the aisle will be just as special, as MissAsB said. I’d most likely insist that I wanted the first look to be between my Fiance and I if I were in your situation.
Post # 5
I also agree. Everyone always says how the day becomes such a blur and goes so fast. I think a first look alone together will help make that first moment more intimate and memorable as it’s jut the two of you, and likely the only time you’ll be alone for the rest of the day! My Fiance are getting married on a private villa and I am meeting him there alone beforehand, followed shortly by our photographer. We love the location and wanted to make sure we had a few minutes to just be alone together, relax and take in the setting before the excitement begins. Good luck to you!
Post # 6
The only other person that will be there with us for our first look is our photographer. Even then, he’ll be up in a balcony so it won’t feel like he’s just standing all around us invading our space. I’m really excited for that time. I think it’s going to be the only time during the entire wedding that we will get to be alone, just me and him.
I would try talking to your mom and explaining why you want it to be just the two of you. You might also explain that it will stil be really special when she walks you down the aisle. You could even show her these posts from people saying it was still special. It says you fight with your mom over silly things already but if this is something important to you then you should stand your ground. Your mom is going to have to let go at some point and realize that her little girl is getting married.
Post # 7
I agree with everyone else, we are just having it be us and the photographer. That’s the whole point of why I am chosing to do a first look, so theres no awkward moment of having to act a certain way because other people are watching. you just get to be 100% comfortable because its you and the man you are about to marry 🙂 Just explain to her that she will still get to take part in the biggest part of the day (the ceremony!) and I’m pretty sure your fiance will still have a huge grin on his face seeing you walk down the aisle 🙂
Post # 8
We’re doing a first look as well. We’re doing it right before bridal party photos, before the ceremony, so our bridal party will be around, but right there with us. I want it to be just us and our photographer. I think that the first look is a wonderful idea, but I don’t think it takes away from the moment you first see each other as you walk down the aisle.
Post # 9
Thank you everyone! I know this is something that I just need to be firm about. The first look is really important to me! My mom will just have to get over it!
Post # 10
We are going to do a first look and then some bridal party pictures as well. Our first look will be private, just the 2 of us and the photographer. I want to have an intimate moment alone with my Fiance before all the craziness starts and I don’t want my mom right there next to me.
Post # 11
Most of our family was there for ours on both sides, so it was basically like half of the people at the wedding were there. Alot of people were staying at the house we were getting ready at and apparently it’s tradition on my hubs side to have family there for the first look, so we went along with it and it was fun. He was at the bottom of a pretty staircase with my bouquet. My family has mentioned several times they were happy they were there for it. Since we weren’t going to see each other for the first time in church I think my mom would have felt robbed if she didn’t get to see our reactions.
Post # 12
My Mother-In-Law threw a fit when Darling Husband told her about the reveal…we “are taking that moment away from” her. It was us and our photographers but my nephew (4) did walk me to Darling Husband and then ran off…he didn’t want to stay in the getting ready room.
My grandmother said “Ok lets go watch this!” and I had to tell her that it was only me and Darling Husband.
Post # 13
We are just doing us and both photographers I’m sure will be hiding behind trees like paparazzi or something 🙂 Remind your mom there will be lots of photos to see the expressions on each of your faces, but that the walk down the aisle is still special because you are officially starting the ceremony.
Post # 14
It’ll be just the two of us, and our photographer. I’m actually really excited for it!
Post # 15
I agree with everyone else. It’s an intimate moment and I just want to share it with Fiance. And a photographer who I’ve never met before. haha