Post # 1
I could scream and stomp my feet right now I am so frusterated. Our best man asked a few weeks ago if it was ok if he got a mohawk for our wedding. (Please keep in mind that it would NOT be a fauxhauk, but a real, true, tall Mohawk). I told him it was his decision to make I would not dictate how a grown adult wore his hair and if he still had trouble deciding if it was ok, to ask his wife. Now come to today, I get a text from my Maid of Honor, is it ok if I dye my hair pink. Again, I told her she is a grown adult and I will not tell her how she has to do her hair but…. AHHHHHHH, I am spending thousands on photography and I really don’t want PINK HAIR or Mohawks in my photos that I will look at to remember our special day for the rest of MY Life.
Thank you for letting me vent, I will go back to being nice and keeping my mouth shut now.
Post # 3
@emf51912: lol you’re too nice – I’d ask nicely if they could wait until after the wedding, seeing as it’s under a month away!
Post # 4
There are only a few weeks left surely they can wait, but then again you can’t tell them what to do.
Post # 5
I as well would ask if they could wait until after the wedding, hurry and call her before she goes pink! LOL.
Post # 6
I am sorry but how old are these people? I could see having pink hair/mohawk when being a teen… no as and adult
Post # 7
If they asked you, obviously they care about your wedding enough to want to know if you’d be upset. If they didn’t care what you thought, they wouldn’t have asked. You are upset. let them know. Say, “Hey friend, you’re an adult. It’s your head. You will ultimately do what you want with it. However, I would really appreciate it if you held off for a few weeks before you X.”
Post # 8
While I’d never tell anyone not to do something to their hair/body for my wedding, considering they asked I’d definitely say no!
Post # 9
Ooh, yea you are being nice… I would ask them not to until after the wedding
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I feel for you. While I agree they shouldn’t let your weding dictatetheir every day lives, they should also expect you to be upset if they make drastic changes to their appearances that will forever be captured in pictures.
My best advice is to focus on your bridal portraits and photos with your husband. In 10+ years you can make fun of both Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen for their ridiculous hair which is permanently captured for public shaming when they have their kids that want to do silly things with their hair.
On the bright side, at least pink hair can be covered up with decent photoshopping and black & white photography.
Post # 11
My matron of honor asked me if she could put purple streaks in her hair and my maid of honor just sent me a photo of her hair dyed Ronald McDonald red … I would prefer for this NOT to be happening, but like you said: it’s their hair, I’m not going to dictate what they can and cannot do.
That said, we’re having an informal, relaxed wedding. If I were having a formal event, I would probably tell them hell no.
Post # 12
@emf51912: Actually, I think that those things will be fun and hilarious to look at as time goes by.
Not directed at you OP, but I’ve never really understood the agnst people have about their pictures, or the desire to have them look like some perfect magazine spread.
ETA: Kudos to you for not dictating your WP’s hair choices!
If your friends are the types to sport pink hair and mohawks, I think that will actually be a fun memory when you’re 90 rather than a magazine perfect idealized and ultimately not true to reality posed picture, you know?
Post # 13
My maid of honor has pink hair right now. Who cares? If you want everyone to look the same, don’t ask people with unique tastes to be in your wedding.
Post # 14
Maybe they are kidding?
One of my bridesmaids this week messaged me at work (we work together) saying “I hope you don’t freak out when you see me, I have purple hair” I was kinda like “okay well that’s cool” or somethingl iek that while in my head freaking out.
She came over and it was purple clip in extensions and I got a nice “GOTCHA” along with it. She wanted to see if I’d be upset and joke around a bit….
Maybe it’s somethin’ like that?
Post # 15
I jokingly told my sister she couldn’t have the purple streaks she has now in her hair for the wedding. Part of me doesn’t care and part is terrified of how bright it will be in the pictures since the wedding is outside!! At the same time, my 3 year old nephew wants a mohawk but my brother and his wife told him to wait til after the wedding since he is the ringbearer. I told them to just cut, what my little buddy wants he gets! LOL
Post # 16
@Zhabeego: If your friends are the types to sport pink hair and mohawks, I think that will actually be a fun memory when you’re 90 rather than a magazine perfect idealized and ultimately not true to reality posed picture, you know?
This is how I’m choosing to think about it. A lot of times, I think those little things that “ruin” the pristine image of a wedding are actually the things that make it memorable and a lot more fun to reflect on! (My McDonald’s haired MoH is my little teenage sister, too, so I look forward to waving the photos in her face when she’s older and embarrassed by her younger self’s fashion choices!)