Post # 1
…. and neither is Emily Post! 😛
So, we all know that you do NOT put registry info in your invites. It’s simply not done. It’s rude. It’s like asking for gifts. It’s intollerable. You put it on your wedding website.
Well, no one is looking at the damn website. :-/ And I keep getting asked where we are registered. I should have jsut put the damn registry cards in with the invites… lol. People are annoyed that they have to ask. And none of our guests are so snooty that they’d be pissed off or think I was panhandling if I included the info.
So ladies, don’t let the internet get to you. 😀 Go with your instincts (and do so BEFORE you start reading threads on ettiquette topics! XD)
Post # 3
i still think that registry info. can be included in the shower invites, but otherwise should be shared word of mouth. 99% of our guests gave us cash/checks at the wedding so not a single person asked where we were registered.
Post # 4
I didn’t even know this was a rule before I started planning and found wedding blogs. A friend of mine put registry info on the instert along with directions and I didn’t think anything of it.
I feel like this, along with most ettiquette topics, all depend on the people invited. If you know your guests won’t mind or be offended by something than don’t let some silly old rule stop you.
Post # 5
It’s also in poor etiquette to start a thread about someone else and talk behind their backs and lash at them. Think before you post.
Post # 6
Doesn’t the registry info always go with the shower invites?
Post # 7
@Asia: I would prefer to receive registry information in the invitations too. I find it incredibly annoying to have to track it down. Just tell me!! Lol.
Post # 8
Exactly! I hate having to do “homework” to find out where someone is registered. It is an inconvienience to the guests. We all know people bring gifts to weddings; it’s a shame that etiquette rules say you must be coy about the whole thing.
Post # 9
@GeorgiaBride5: What are you talking about? I don’t think Emily Post or the general Weddingbee consensus is going to be offended over this post.
Post # 11
@kgirl91: +1. It’s not offensive.
Post # 12
@kgirl91: +1 I am really confused by that comment
Post # 13
And this is why no one can read anything online and get the tone…. The original post got into a very heated debate about whether or not it was okay to include registry info. There are many etiquette sticklers out there and people who believe if you don’t follow, you are wrong. I retract my original comment on the grounds that I misunderstood the OP.
Post # 14
ARGH THIS HAPPENED TO US, TOO.
I spent months putting together all of this information for our website, made sure it was ready to go before we sent out our save the dates (because they had the URL on there). The URL was included on our reception card in the invitation. Weeks after invitations were sent out, FI’s stepmom calls to ask me what we’re doing for hotel blocks because people are asking. And where we’re registered. And where the reception is. I responded that ALL of that information is on the wedding website. She had no idea what I was talking about. I told her that the address is on both the save the dates AND in the invitations. She responded that people probably don’t have those anymore. Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh how do they expect to find the reception?? It’s NOT at the same place as the ceremony. GAH.
FI’s stepmom put where we’re registered on the shower invites, though, so there’s that. Plus we had a bunch of people ask at little brother’s graduation party.
Post # 15
LOL. We are going through the same thing. We live together so we didn’t want to advertise “GIVE US GIFTS”. Especially when airfare and hotel stays add up so much. So we just included a link to our website on the accommodations card, that has all wedding info, including registry. The FI has had several people ask where we are registered because no one has bothered to check the website. It’s kind of concerning because the website also has the wedding schedule/parking info and other stuff on it, but oh well, what can you do.
Post # 16
@Asia: I definitely think it depends on the family. If you think your family is going to appreciate the registry info along with the invite, then do it. If you think your family is too traditional and would think it’s rude, then don’t do it.
it all depends on the guests.