- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I need to vent about wedding gifts (not all, just a few and I will not name names or point out dumb gifts, but just a bit of venting, don’t mind me please). My husband and I paid for the entire wedding ourselves and although, not to be bitter, was a little shocked at how cheap some people’s wedding gifts were. Okay, I know, I know, I shouldn’t complain, it’s not about the gifts, blah blah blah… but get real, some of the gifts were downright insulting. Some people clearly just don’t give a damn about how they are percieved. Also, I don’t understand why people who knows about our registry bought us things outside of my registry or brought box gifts to our wedding. Stupid! The only reason I can think of is that they had a credit at a store that they wanted to use, picked out some crap that might work as a wedding gift, and then is too cheap to mail it to our home. Sorry, that’s how I feel. I know some of you will burn me for thinking that and might lecture me on how it is not about the gift, it’s the thought, or the fact that they came out of their way to attend my wedding. I think that is bull; it was a night of partying, free food and open bar, if they really didn’t want to come, they didn’t have to. Also, a thoughtless gift can be seen from a mile away. So, it is not only the fact that it is cheap, it is also thoughtless. People please, give money, that is the best gift, don’t try to be creative. Believe me, the best gift for a newlywed is money. If you have no money, then offer time, offer to help the bride with wedding planning – that is as good as money.
Oh, and just for the record, I always give money or buy an equally pricey gift off the couple’s registry. i would never think of picking out some random crap or give them a gift card to a store they didn’t ask for. Because even gift cards to places that I didn’t ask for looks like a re-gift. It looks like they had a credit and just wanted to get rid of it by passing it to us as a wedding gift. I suspect that because if they truly wanted to get a giftcard to me specifically, why didn’t they get me a gift card to the store where my registry is located?!!
Also, another thing for the record, my husband and I never intended to make money back or even think we will break even with the gifts we receive. We just wanted to celebrate our wedding, but a few people’s gifts were a bit insulting. I hope I didn’t make it sound like every gift we got were bad, because that is not true, most of the people gave us money or bought things from our registry. It was just a few bad eggs that I needed to get off my chest.