A rant where I probably sound like a mean bitch..

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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643 posts
Busy bee

LadyMoriarty:  I would just say, “I’m feel overwhelmed with all the stuff I need to do. If anything, I’d appreciate your support during the week of my wedding.” I’m not sure how rational your sister is, but that’s what I’d say to my sibling. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Maybe it’s just her way of wanting to spend time with you? IDK. Just say no if you don’t feel up to it.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

LadyMoriarty: ” Sorry Sis, I love you to death but my agenda is full the week before the wedding.”

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

LadyMoriarty:  Maybe she is just not thinking. Some people think about others all the time and some people think about themselves all the time. Just tell her, “I have my own stuff to do. IF I have time after I have done what I need to everyday then I can help you, otherwise you will need to ask someone else.” Doesn’t make you sound like a B*tch at all!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

LadyMoriarty:  You don’t sound like a meanie AT ALL! Your feelings sound totally valid. Like PP said, I would just tell my sister that I’m pretty tied up with handling the wedding prep and I don’t imagine having lots of free time to do other things. That way you can devote your time to handling business and she can make other arrangements to handle the things she wants/needs to do. 

If you do end up with some unexpected free time or if you find yourself wanting/needing a break maybe you can do something fun to relax with your sister. 

Post # 8
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335 posts
Helper bee

Agree with PP; just try to explain to her that you’re busy/ have previous business to take care of. If you end up with time to spend with her great, but she might just need to hear it from you. Sometimes people get caught up and don’t think what others might be dealing with. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You should say something to her ASAP or else you’re gonna blow like a crazy person on the day of your wedding or right around it. Nip it in the bud now and say something like – I feel like I’m going crazy and getting so overwhelmed with everything I need to do for our wedding. Is there any way you could help me so I don’t lose my mind? So many ppl need so many things from me leading up to the wedding and I could really use some support from you to get thru this w my sanity. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

Shkragoldfish:  completely agree……

 

LadyMoriarty:  I had a bridesmaid that reminds me of your sister.  I would have a pleasant chat with her and try to put an end to this now.  I never really put my foot down with my bridesmaid and paid dearly for it all the way through my wedding.  I wish I had said something to her to get her on track because maybe the day wedding would have been a little less stressful….

Post # 11
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Honey bee

Like PP said, sort this out now, you don’t want your big day spoilt by a big blow out with your sister (I love my sister to death but she can be a little cow and when we are both stressed together it is not good). Just say, although you wish you could help her with all those things, you just won’t have time. Is there a gentle way to remind her how busy she was on her wedding day?

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