- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
Background: My granny (Mom’s mom) needs surgery on her shoulder and was going to have it on June 30, but decided against it because the family is going camping middle of August and she didn’t want a) be in pain while there or b) be stuck home alone.
So come to find out she has rescheduled her surgery for next monday. I guess she is okay with not going camping and being home alone for a week next month. Granny is the type of person that believes everyone (especially her children) need to bend over backwards and give up their own families and lives to help her. My mom is the only child of hers that lives nearby so Mom is expected to take care of Granny while she is healing. Mom had to cancel our annual garage sale that we have all been looking forward to for a year (and that I took time off of work for) because she has to be with Granny.
Before you judge me, I know that Granny will need help after her surgery. She won’t be able to get dressed by herself or shower without help, etc. What I don’t like and is part of the reason of my rant (haven’t gotten to part be yet, it’s worse) is that my mom is expected to be with Granny 24/7 and take a bunch of time off work and away from her own family. We don’t have a lot of money for her to be able to take time off of work, but Granny throws a fit and cries and screams if she doesn’t get her way. And she always does that, cries and screams until she gets her way.
Did I mention Granny is planning on moving to Arkansas for a year to be near her son and expects my mom to drive her there? I didn’t? And I didn’t mention either that she is doing this in SEPTEMBER!!!!? I didn’t mention that either? Hmm, silly me.
Part B, the worse part of the whole thing is this. Granny will be living in Arkansas at the time of my wedding (she has known the date since this last January and decided this month to move). That’s fine since she can come back for the wedding. But no, she told my mother during one of her moods that she might not come to the wedding because she doesn’t feel like it. I was livid when my mom told me this. SHE DOESN’T FEEL LIKE COMING TO HER OLDEST GRANDCHILD’S WEDDING THAT SHE HAS KNOWN ABOUT FOR SEVEN MONTHS!! I wanted to call Granny and scream at her for saying that!
I texted FI and told him all about it while I was crying and yelling at Granny to whomever would listen (since she wasn’t there). I told him I wished he were here and he said he was sorry he couldn’t be. After I calmed down some I took a bath and FI continued texting me to cheer me up (he can always make me laugh when I’m down). So my mom knocks on the door and asked if I knew that FI was here…What?! So I had to jump out of the tub and throw clothes on and as I got out of the bathroom, he walked in the door…with flowers. Aw!!! And he hugged me and gave me the flowers and wished me a "happy negative 8 month anniversary" (our wedding is 8 months from yesterday). I wanted to cry!! He decided to drive the two hours from his work to my house when he got my first text (which went something like "Mom cancelled the garage sale. What the (blank) am I going to do that friday?")
So anyway, there’s my rant with a happy ending (well, temporary happy ending, since I still don’t know if Granny is going to come to the wedding).