Post # 1
I’m not a dancer. Fiance is DEFINITELY not a dancer. We’re planning a relatively small wedding (75-90 people) of all very close friends or family. And because neither of us enjoy dancing, we are planning on having no dancing at the reception.
To try and keep the reception enjoyable, we are planning stations/small plates for the catering to keep people up and moving around and mingling, plenty of conversational groupings of lounge furniture to sit comfortably while talking, and…. from there I’m drawing a blank.
Has anybody been to or had a wedding without dancing? Can you share any thoughts as to what worked/didn’t work for the recption? I’d be super appreciative of ideas!
Post # 3
I’ve been to a few. People usually just chat and hang out. If you want to make it as long as dancing receiptions usually are, though, you will want to provide alternate activities for your guests.
I don’t think there’s a thing wrong with not having dancing as long as people aren’t getting bored.
Post # 4
Is this a night-time reception? Are you going to have a DJ or music? Or will there be no background noise except for the talking/mingling/etc?
I’ve only been to one with no dancing, and it was during the late afternoon. There wasn’t really any music, just a little background music from a laptop (honestly…I could barely even hear it so I have no idea what it was). No alcohol either. I really didn’t enjoy it because I’m DEFINITELY a dancer! So it was a little boring to me. I think they could have done it better with at least some music. Maybe some games would work. People need something to do… Unless it will be a shorter reception (2 hours or so)
I think if it’s during the day it is fine…if it’s an evening/night time reception I do think guests might find it strange that there is no dancing. Usually people expect this at night. If it’s at night, I would consider having dancing for the benefit of your guests. You don’t have to dance the night away if you’re uncomfortable…but they might enjoy it!
Post # 5
We are not serving alcohol at our reception and do not expect dancing. We are still having a band/entertainment. We are definitely planning on a short reception, probably 7 to 9:30 or 10 at the latest. We will have a buffet dinner and cake, etc.
Post # 6
If it’s over 2 hours, definitely plan something to do
Post # 7
I haven’t but if it’s a shorter reception I guess it would be fine just talking and mingling.
Post # 8
I have been to two weddings without dancing – one was in the afternoon, and one evening wedding.
The afternoon was fine, because the reception itself wasn’t too long, so we just ate a small amount and left.
The evening was awkward because the reception wasn’t supposed to end until like 11, but everyone was so bored after eating that most people left early. I felt bad for the couple, but everyone was just sitting around; and for those people (like me) who only knew 1 other person at the wedding, it was boring. :/
Post # 9
I’ve only been to evening weddings and they’ve always had dancing. I think I would expect dancing at evening weddings, but not so much a brunch/early afternoon wedding.
Post # 10
One wedding I attended with no dancing was more fun than I expected it to be. The venue was amazing, and it was a small, intimate space. There were maybe 50 or so guests, and everyone chatted together, socialized, took fun pics. There was a piano in the room, and a couple of guests played a few songs, and there was singing and merriment. Also, there was a full bar, so people had drinks if they wanted, so it was still pretty fun.
Post # 11
@TeamAwesome: I’ve been to quite a few (including my own). Because dancing isn’t popular among some churches, I’ve probably been to more non dancing weddings than dancing ones. But even among non Christians it’s quite common here (Australia) to not have dancing.
There are no special activities. People mingle and talk. The evening usually has 3 or so short speeches to give it a bit of structure.
Post # 12
I’ve been to a wedding where there was a DJ but no one danced other than the bride-groom first dance and the dance with the parents. The guests just weren’t a bunch of dancers. It was nice to have the background music though. I suggest you load up your ipod and plug it in for some background music. 🙂
Post # 13
I attended one and was bored to tears, as was everyone else we were sitting with. Couldn’t wait to leave. They didn’t plan anything else, though, either. They had everyone sitting down and talking.. and we ate.. and then, I dunno, that was it. We weren’t sure if we should stay or leave; they didn’t make an attempt to make sure people were entertained.
That said, most of the people there were much older (like, 40+) and were mostly family.
Post # 14
I think dancing should be optional. Have a Dj or some sort of music if people want to dance, cool if not its still ok. That way no one will get bored
Post # 15
Thanks for all the insight ladies! We’ll definitely be having music (through the venue’s sound system but no DJ) and an open bar (far more important in my family than the dancing lol). We haven’t settled on a venue yet but we’ve narrowed it down to places that are smaller more intimate rooms to better encourage mingling and talking.
Like I said, our guest list will be almost entirely family and a few close friends (that know the families very well), so we aren’t super worried about people not having anybody to talk to. We have family parties that last longer than that and always have a great time and I’ve been to formal cocktail parties/work events that didn’t include dancing and had a good time. So I’m not sure WHY I am so worried about this, but I just want the reception to feel more like a cocktail party (late in the evening) rather than a super traditional reception, with a cocktail hour, plated dinner, and then 3 hours of dancing.
For those that think an activity is called for- any suggestions? I’ve never really been to a formal event with “activities”- I’ve always just spent the time talking (and eating!) so I am totally clueless as to what kinds of things people do!
Post # 16
My wedding will not have dancing. I don’t like to dance, and neither does my guy. Out wedding will be smaller than yours, and only family plus about 6-10 close friends. All of which dont really dance either! We will be having a daytime wedding (ceremony at 1, reception to follow), so the no dancing shouldnt be a problem. We won’t have a DJ, but we’ll make a playlist for iPod speakers for background noise.
I’m kinda sad about missing out on having a ‘first dance’ or a ‘father daughter dance’, but I don’t know how to add those in when we aren’t expecting everyone else to dance. I have no idea what else people will do besides converse and much on food. I expect it to last about 3 hours, since our families can just talk and dont need much of a party to have fun.