- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Responding to another topic made me think of a new question :-).
FI has a SIL. I’ve known FSIL for about three years. FSIL and FBIL got married last year. While I wasn’t a part of the bridal party (which was 100% okay, we had only known each other for a year, and FI and I weren’t engaged at the time, I would have made the same decision), they did ask me to play an instrument in their ceremony, which I graciously accepted. On their wedding day, they really went the extra mile to make sure that I felt included in everything. I was included in the family pictures, as mentioned, I did have a part in the ceremony, and I rode on the party bus with the bridal party. I didn’t ask for any of this (though I did ask FI about what I should do about the pictures…I wanted to avoid a potentially awkward scene) because it was their day, they should do what they want.
Anyways, FI and I are now planning our wedding. It’s a little over a year away. I’m trying to figure out what I could have my FSIL do in our wedding. I’m not asking her to be a part of the bridal party because of what I can imagine are probably the same reasons she didn’t ask me. I would like for her to have a role in our wedding. However, she and FBIL will have a 10 month old at the time. Because FBIL will be FI’s best man, I am sure that FSIL will have the baby during the ceremony. I don’t want to insult her by not asking, but at the same time, I don’t want her to feel obligated in any way.