Post # 1
So today I had to sad goodbye to my Nana, she was my best friend, the only one like me, the only one that understood my crazy side as she was the same and the person who I could call with any issue at all and still talk for hours & hours.
Then we got home to a call from my dad…. My uncle (well great uncle) lost his 10+ year battle with cancer.
Its been such an emotional day… And now I’m seriously thinking of canceling this huge white wedding were planning and opting for a simple civil service as soon as possible and start having the kids we so desperately want…. Is this normal to be wanting this when you go through something so emotional?
Post # 3
Oh my gosh, my heart breaks for you. I can understand why you would be so emotionally drawn to cancelling your formal wedding, but wait a couple weeks until the feelings are less raw before you decide anything. I’m sure your Nana and Uncle would have wanted you to have the wedding of your dreams.
Post # 4
@lisha_1988: I’m SO sorry!I would give you a big hug if i could. I think it’s absolutly normal because you just want to have something happy happen.
I think you should wait it out for a little. Dont make any huge decisions yet. You could just be reacting and maybe regret it later that you didn’t have that wedding you were planning because of this. Maybe take a mini honeymoon? or have an event to focus on for a little while? like a party or outing with friends?
If you still feel you want something now in a week or so then go for it.
Post # 5
i am so sorry 🙁 It truly is a sad day..i lost my mother-in-law to be in March and it was (is) devastating. Shewas so happy about the wedding and always saying she wouldn’t live till the day..we lost her and it was terrible..for a week i could not think about the wedding, though people at the funeral did come to me and advising us mot to cancel it. It came the day qhen i asked Fiance if he wantes to delay the wedding. He was silent. Then he said “no. Everything’s planned and it’s what she wanted the most. Let’s have a beautiful wedding and remember her through the day. She will be there, with us, smilling, in spirit”
Post # 6
Oh my goodness, I am soooo sorry for your lost. Take some time for yourself to grief and then go back to wedding planning. I’m sending huge internet hugs!!!!!!
Post # 7
*hugs* I’m sorry for your double loss.
I think it’s normal to put a new perspective on your life after you experience serious loss like this.
Post # 8
I think you girls may be right… I’m just very emotional atm on top of this my partner was overseas for work when it happened, so he has flown back for 3 days and then goes back for another 4 weeks 🙁
Im going to leave planning as much as possible for the next 4 weeks and hopefully I can change my thoughts because nana really did want to be st this wedding, after talking to my family at the wake I realized how much she wanted it to happen too she spoke to all my relatives about it as much as we spoke about it so maybe it’s the best option to just keep planning…. I’m just lost its hard to be without her…
Post # 9
I’m so sorry for your losses *hugs*