A sad waiting day. (vent sorry)

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

yay you with the shut-it-up-pact.

Was it really the car problem he thought it was? If it is I really do feel it for you. Positively, he coulld still propose within a couple of months if he is great at saving.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Ahh honey, sorry to hear this. I hate how money holds us back in modern life.  Hugs.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MissStruggles:  If you’ve told him that you’ll figure it out when the time comes then he will take it as that, you need to let him know that the honeymoon is important to you, besides if your date is Oct 2014 you guys still have plenty of time to save up again. Don’t worry sometimes these things happen for a reason, these things can’t be helped, you will get your wonderful honeymoon, don’t worry : )

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I agree that everything happens for a reason. With the being said if he needs the money there’s plenty of time for him to save up again. Do not lose hope!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I love that women think all they need to do is shut up and stay perfectly quiet and a proposal will come……Like tracking a deer…Shhhh! Don’t scare it! Stay very still….don’t say a word…..he’s coming closer…..

Now by all means don’t go all cray cray and badger a poor man to death with over the top whiny dramatic behaviour, but why is the alternative to become a mute robot?

Was the money he was saving earmarked for a ring? If so, then yeah, that’s pretty sucky. But life happens. If you assumed that money was for a ring…well that’s kinda different. Just ask him how this affects your plans. (by your I mean his and yours, not just yours, because that’s the first thing to get straight is what is BOTH of your timeline?)

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MissStruggles:  Okaaaaay, I get why you’d be bummed that this pushed the ring purchase back, but if like you say you’re both planning your future together, and you have a date even, then why are you so concerned with shutting up and not mentioning anything engagement/wedding related? That doesn’t make any sense.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@Sunshine09:  I love that women think all they need to do is shut up and stay perfectly quiet and a proposal will come……Like tracking a deer…Shhhh! Don’t scare it! Stay very still….don’t say a word…..he’s coming closer…..

HAHAHA This is so true!! 

Why doesn’t he get a cheaper ring in the meantime? Personally I wouldn’t want money to stand in the way of getting engaged (I mean, as long as you two are relatively financially stable). But I understand if that’s not what you want, anyways this sucks for you *hugs* don’t worry, it’ll all come together soon!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@MissStruggles:  I totally understand about the ring; I feel the same way. All I can say is, at least you know it’s coming, and we are here for you!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I definitely feel your pain. My boyfriend spend $1200 fixing a car that broke down a month later. He then had to spend $3000 as a down payment on his new car. That was all money he had planned for a ring. I definitely agree with his decision since he needs a reliable way to get to and from work, but it still sucks pushing everything back. This situation has made me think that him and I both need to be financially stable in life before getting married. 

Also you never know what could happen financially to accelerate his savings. Maybe he will get a raise at work, maybe a big tax return in 2014! I have decided that I would be willing to help him purchase a ring that I want and would love forever. 

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