A seat for every guest at the ceremony?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015


How many guests are you planning to have?  I would suggest that you do have a seat for everyone because things go wrong and ceremonies can run long.  People need a place to rest their feet.

Post # 4
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t dream of not having seating for everyone.

Post # 5
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Absolutely have a seat for everyone!  

Post # 6
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you do need to offer a seat for every guest. Remember that they are there from 15-30 minutes or more before the ceremony starts.

Post # 8
10902 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with prior posters. You need to have a seat for everyone. 

I don’t know too many women who are comfortable standing for any length of time in heels.  Walking is one thing.  Standing still is another thing entirely.

Post # 9
382 posts
Helper bee

I have never heard of not having a seat for every guest unless all guests be standing for the ceremony and maybe a smaller number of seats for people that need to sit. How would that work otherwise- like first come, first serve? If you’re going to have all of the guests standing around you and FI in a circle or something during the ceremony (which I have seen done well with small, intimate weddings) that may be okay. If there is a seated ceremony I think everyone should have a seat.

Post # 10
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We have 80 guests and we’re having seating for eveeryone….plus extra!  Ya never know when a bridesmaid will go down!
FI’s mom fainted at his aunt’s wedding and our friend had a bridesmaid faint at her wedding too lol.  Never know when someone will need to sit down.

Seats for everyone!!

Post # 11
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

What? Would people stand? Everyone has always sat down at all of the weddings I have attended (even the shorter ones). 

Post # 12
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Second thread like this today.

Yes, you should generally have seats for all of your guests. Nobody wants to stand around for an hour while you get married, and the elderly or disabled (keep in mind you cannot always tell that someone has a disability by looking at them) will be especially miserable.

Exceptions might be made for ceremonies that start promptly and last less than 5 or 10 minutes.

Post # 13
1595 posts
Bumble bee

Why are they saying you don’t need them?  Cost?  Hassle of setting them up (remote venue)? 

If you have LOTS of young healthy people then I suppose that you could get by with fewer than 1 seat per person.  But, I know I want a place to sit, and think most others feel the same way.  I vote for everyone getting a seat.


Post # 14
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@duchiewoo:  Only have a seat for those that have a combined income that exceeds that of 80K a year.

Post # 15
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@duchiewoo:  Where are you? I’m in Australia and I’ve been to a couple of outdoor weddings that didn’t have seats for everyone, though they had a few for elderly guests. They must have been short weddings because I don’t remember being bothered by it. I still think it’s better to seat everyone though.

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