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A Second Wedding....tradition without the tradition

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    SummerJ    April 14, 2012   Pace, Florida

    I am about to get married for the second time. I was okay with not having a wedding because I have had one before but I did not want to take that experience from my fiance. I have run into some emotional sadness that I did not realize was so strong until now. My father passed away about 9 years ago. It's been easier to deal with over the years but imagining him not at the wedding has really hurt. We are having a non-traditional wedding in our church. My fiance will be walking down the aisle with my daughter on one side and I will be walking with my son on the other side at the same time (we have promised to not look over at each other). We will be walking to the song "A Perfect Day." When we reach the front, we will meet in the middle and give each others parents  (my mom and stepfather and his parents) a flower and also set one down in the pew for my father as well as the poem (thanks). We are then going to walk up to the alter all four of us holding hands to a table holding 4 viles of colored sand to pour into one glass jar. We are focusing the wedding on the uniting of our family so we have done away with bridesmaides, groomsmen...etc. I just wanted to share with other single moms out there an idea...

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    Welcome to the Hive!

    Thank you for sharing that.  I think that is such a unique and beautiful way to join your family and to remember your dad.  Lovely!

     
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    supernic    August 28, 2012   Portland, OR

    Thank you - this is beautiful.

    I lost my dad almost 4 years ago.  He gave me away at my first wedding, but did not like my ex-husband, so it was a strange experience.  He didn't know my FI very long before he died, but everyone says how much my dad would have liked him (and I agree).

    I think it's just now starting to sink in that my dad won't be there.  I've thought of ways to honor him during the ceremony, but nothing has felt right so far.  I love your ideas and will continue to put more thought into it.

    FI and I have 3 sons between the two of us, so have been trying to figure out a way to incorporate them into the ceremony.  We'll do a sand ceremony (we're getting married on a beach).  I thought about having my son walk me down the aisle, but I really like the idea of us all walking down together.  Or maybe meeting halfway? 

    I love these creative and special ideas.  Thanks for sharing!

     

     

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