(Closed) A setback to our relationship?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

From the other side, I have a habit of looking at craiglist for personal ads because I find them interesting but I have no intention of ever contacting these people. Just because a person looks doesnt mean they are thinking of cheating. If my husband was to snoop into my internet history hes going to find a lot, and i mean A LOT, of shocking things i look up but im 100% faithful and respectful to him and our marriage, i just like reading these things because they amuse me and i cant stand 50 shades of grey

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I look at personal ads on craigs list sometimes out of morbid curiosity and okcupid profiles for entertainment. NO INTENTION at all on cheating on FI, love him to bits. So the question to you is: How much do you trust your FI?

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Here is an example of why he might be looking around on there…http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/fnt/3059484187.html  Not the best I could find right off the bat, but c’mon.  Especially if he’s looking at ones with weird titles, it’s probably because he was bored.  Unless there is a theme…

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissThespian:  Damn, how’d he do that???  

I’m sure everything is fine.  Maybe browse through yourself, and if you find something funny, share it with him.  If you have a strong stomach, that is!  =)

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

For me, if I was to actually contact any of these people thats crossing a line and it seems your FI isnt doing this, hes just a interested reader like lots of people. If this was me and my husband started questioning me/looking through my online history i think i would also get defensive because im a grown woman who can read anything she wants and doesnt need permission 

And dont be fussed about guy or girl ads, i’ll read anything thats weird or crazy

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I also look at craigslist’ casual encounters section once in a blue moon… The crap you read on there is hilarious.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I hope he is just reading it for entertainment.  My ex and I met through Myspace.  A few months into our relationship, for some reason I had this weird feeling cuz i noticed he was up in the middle of the night and could hear him on the computer.  I looked at the history and he was looking at girls myspace accounts.  Now why in the world was he doing this?   We got in a fight, and eventually went on w/our relationship.

Long story short we got married, and when we eventualy divorced two years later, all along he had just been trying to get over his 1st wife, and I found other things he was looking at which was the source of our divorce. 

 

Men, they are such a source of grief and a source of joy.  I hope your SO is not creeping.  Keep an eye out girl. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I can’t even count the number of times that websites like Reddit have threads on them about weird personal ads on Craigslist.  Of course you click on it and next thing you know, you’re looking for the next weird thing.

Out of curiosity, did he talk to you about wanting to make a fitness change?  Encourage you on the journey with him?  Include you in his plan at all?  If not, that would actually bother me much more than the fact that he is browsing the personals.

Without knowing him, I would be suspicous of the sudden changes.  Has he changed the way he dresses?  Taken more pride in the way that he looks?  

On the flip side, I think that you have a self-esteem hurdle that you need to overcome.  You feel very insecure in your relationship and in your body and you need to fix that.  That insecurity can be a far greater obstacle than just about anything else.

I hope for your sake that he isn’t cheating but you know him better than anyone else.  If you believe him, no one else is going to convince you otherwise.

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