(Closed) A shout-out to excellent Future In-Laws

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How are your in-laws?
    They're wonderful - like my own family. : (61 votes)
    54 %
    They're wonderful - better than my own famiy. : (17 votes)
    15 %
    They're nice enough. : (11 votes)
    10 %
    They're okay/tolerable. : (8 votes)
    7 %
    We have some issues, but I see a light at the end of the tunnel. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    We have some issues, and I think we always will. : (7 votes)
    6 %
    They're not very nice people - really hard to deal with. : (3 votes)
    3 %
    They don't approve of their son/daughter marrying me. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    They are awful. We've stopped speaking to them. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    79 posts
    Worker bee

    I get along with my FIL great!! His mom and I are super close! And he comes from a family with 5 boys~yep, that’s right, 5 boys. Talk about one tough momma!! 🙂 They’re both awesome~I’m very fortunate to get along so well with them.

    Post # 4
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    112 posts
    Blushing bee

    I said they’re ok/tolerable, but my answer would have been "like my own family" before the wedding craziness began. My fmil is upset that we won’t invite 20 of her coworkers (with spouses it would be 40+ people) and I hear about it every time I see her. However, they are loving and kind to me and nowhere near as terrible as some of the horror stories on here. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I always feel so bad for the people who have to put up with such horrific inlaws!  Too bad those of us with good ones can’t rent ours out or something, hah

    I seriously feel like I hit the in-laws jackpot — my FI has two younger sisters that are roughly the same age as my own.  We get along REALLY well.  His mom is a total sweetheart to me and I really enjoy spending time with her, her sisters, and his grandma.  His stepdad is great too (his dad passed away a long time ago) and one of the absolute nicest men ever.  My FI’s whole family – his mom’s side, dad’s side, step-dad’s side – are all just really close and really welcoming.  When we first started dating, his mom sewed me the most beautiful quilt I’ve ever had!  It had barely been a year of dating.  And his family always tells him how excited they are to have me around.  Just makes me feel really well loved.  We haven’t ever had any issues with them and they’re all just SUPER excited for our wedding.  My FI isn’t getting too bad of a deal either — my dad’s side is the only one we hang out with, but it’s HUGE (Irish Catholics) and we’re all super tight.  They all love my FI as much as they love me and are, of course, incredibly supportive.  No drama, ever, on either ends of our families.  Everybody is probably way too midwest for conflict, haha.

    Ok, gushing too much.  🙂  I’m very happy with our family situations.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    My FMIL is wonderful. I am so grateful to have her a part of our lives and a part of our wedding. I wish her and her hubby lived closer though so that I can include her more in the planning. With the power of the internet and email I send her details often.

    Unfortunately, my relationship with my FFIL is not great. I just tolerate him because I have to and because he lives with my FI and I (due to medical reasons). He has done a lot of bad things in his past. So much so that it is very hard to overlook. It doesn’t help that he continues to lie and BS about my FI and I to his family. Pretty disappointing because I had always hoped that I would have a great relationship with father of the man I was going to marry. Oh well.

    Post # 7
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    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I love my FIL’s as well. My FFIL has been more of a dad to me in the past 3.5 years than my dad has been during all 23 years of my life. My FMIL and I also get along great. I was so scared to meet her, though, and she definitely jokingly gave me a hard time during our first meeting. I think his parents were just so happy to see him finally settle down with a good girl. He was a bit wild for most of his college years, so I definitely helped in toning it down as he was preparing to graduate. I met his parents before we were even "officially" boyfriend/girlfriend. I think this helped with things. Also, I’m lucky to have never had a fight or disagreement with his parents. Hopefully it stays that way, but if something were to happen I know we would resolve it like adults.

    I think part of the reason we get along so well is because we see each other a lot. Our hometowns are only an hour away from each other so we’re able to split holidays easily. He also had to move home for about 6 months so I spent A LOT of time there. We’ve seen some hard times (FMIL’s father’s death, deaths of close friends, etc) so that brought us even closer. Whenever I read about some one having FIL trouble I always think about how I’ve really hit the in-law lottery. This is a great thread, MJ. Cool in-laws definitely deserve a shout out!

    Post # 8
    Member
    406 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m in the Wonderful In Laws Club too! LOVE EM! FI’s whole family has accepted and welcomed me! It’s great because they have big family events where each side gets together and I love it because I don’t have a large extended family that gets together. They’re also all excited for our wedding which is nice b/c my family doesn’t talk much and nobody mentions the wedding 🙁

    Post # 9
    Member
    237 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    FIs family is great and has welcomed me from day one.

    Post # 10
    Member
    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I have also hit the FMIL and FFIL jackpot.  They are wonderful, easy going people that were totally welcoming from day one.  I’m really going to try to remember that when the day comes (very far in the future!!) that my son or daughter brings home their honey.  I feel so bad for all of these brides that are dealing with such crazy situations with their future in-laws, and feel really fortunate that mine are so cool about everything.  I can’t even imagine how stressful that would be!! 

    Post # 11
    Member
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I love my future in-laws! They are sometimes more fun than my own family!

    Post # 12
    Member
    428 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

    I love my FILs too!  Mr. Beagle comes from a great family and I love them like they were my own and can’t wait to become a member of the family!  We live with FBIL Beagle and I am so lucky/blessed that we all get along so well and it hasn’t been a problem at all (I was a little worried about moving into a house with boys).

    Post # 13
    Member
    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’d rather hang out with my FFIL and FSMIL than my own parents, LOL.  I haven’t met or talked to my FMIL yet, but she sounds nice, and I’ll be calling her this weekend!  {crosses fingers}

    Post # 14
    Member
    7082 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I won.  My new family is teh awesome!  I can’t express to you how sweet and loving and thoughtful they are.  I don’t know how I got so lucky, but I suppose I paid my karmic dues with some very awful boyfriend parents in the past…

    Post # 15
    Member
    2205 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’m glad you gave so many categories to respond to.

     I’m not really sure how I feel about  my in-laws.  I’ve only seen them a few times (3 for my FFIL and maybe 6 or 7 for FMIL), because I live in Chicago and they live in San Diego.  We haven’t had any major issues, but I am veryclose and connected with my family and I’ve found it hard to really find a connection or common ground with them.  After the wedding, we’re going to live about 10 mintues away from them.  My FMIL doesn’t have any daughters, and I’m really hoping we can make a mom/daughter connection as I’ll be quite lonely for my family, and I’m sure she’s sick of living in a house full of boys!

    time will only tell. 

    Post # 16
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Ipicked other. My FMIL and FFIL are complete sweetharts. I actually enojy spending time with them more than some of FI’s friends :). That being said, I definitely would not say they are like family to me …yet nor would I say that I think of them more highly than my own family. They are lovely people. My FBIL and FSIL (FBIL’s wife) are nice, but I would not say that I totally jive with them. We don’t have much in common and I only see and talk to them when I go to FI’s home state. I feel very lucky though to be marrying into a nice family (i’ll keep my fingers crossed that it stays this way).

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