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    ForeverYoung    October 10, 2010   Montreal

    I feel horribly guilty about sooo much these days. I cant really cook anymore ( the smells), cleaning products make me sick ( sigh...again the smells) and I am feeling just overall LAZY. I am sooo tired and the hubs has been picking up alot of the slack, but i feel so guilty about. I feel like a giant huge burden...

    Anyone else feel like this?

     
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    Gerbera    August 7, 2010   NY

    @ForeverYoung:

    awww. I'm not pregnant but I don't think you should feel guilty!

    You're carrying the baby so he has to carry the extra household load! :)

     
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    TheFutureMcBride    August 2010   Virginia

    As @Gerbera: said, you're pregnant. Don't worry about it. This is part of being pregnant and a parent. You can't do everything and you won't be able to do everything once the baby is born. Make sure your husband and you have a discussion about what you can and can't do so he understands and call it a day. You're growing a baby. It's a lot of work.

     
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    ladyox    May 16, 2010  

    @ForeverYoung:  I hear ya.  I'm about 7 weeks and have been nauseous/pukey pretty much 24/7, so laying on the couch feeling miserable and falling asleep around 8pm is my new favorite thing.  My husband is the sweetest ever and is taking such good care of me, but I feel bad that I'm not my usual self.  I mean, I get it, I'm growing a human, but it was just such a big shift, so fast. 

    I hope you feel better soon!  Don't feel too guilty and try to enjoy this time (I'll try taking that advice too!) 

     
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    harmonyeee    May 8, 2009  

    I know how you feel...I've felt like a waste of space pretty much this entire winter. But be easy on yourself! You shouldn't feel guilty. I don't think it's too much to ask your husband to pick up more of the housework if you're using all of your energy being pregnant. Do you think he sits around feeling guilty that he doesn't get to help you carry the baby? If so, maybe you should both stop feeling so guilty :) But probably not. You're doing you're best and that's all you can do!

     
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    Lozza    September 1, 2007  

    I said this in another similar thread, but my husband has been telling me throughout the pregnancy that he doesn't mind doing more or less everything, as long as I recognize and appreciate how helpful he's being. So I try not to feel bad about it, and to just remember to make sure I let him know how much it means to me and how awesome he is.

     
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    tiramisu    July 19, 2008   Maine

    You're not doing nothing... you are GROWING A HUMAN.  Your husband couldn't do that if he tried.  Cut yourself some slack and just tell him how much you appreciate him :)

     

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