Post # 1
*disclaimer: this is not a shot at anyone*
I thought the tradition for the bouquet and garter toss was for the “eligible” members of the reception to be in the crowd. My understanding of eligible were those who were not engaged yet (dating or single).
The last wedding I went to, an engaged girl caught the bouquet. At my own wedding both the girl who caught the bouquet and the guy who got the garter were both engaged. This is not as fun … we already *know* you’re getting married … if you’re engaged … don’t take the fun of the tradition from the others who haven’t reached that stage yet.
Post # 3
@awakemysoul: I always thought the tradition was for all “single” people, engaged or not. I thought it was to show who is getting married next, not who’s getting engaged next. Engaged people aren’t married, so they could be next.
Post # 4
In my group of friends we bring everyone up who is technically ‘single’ meaning unmarried. And therefore we let engaged couples join in the fun!
I caught the bouquet when I was engaged and I am glad I was allowed to participate as I had never participated before and never will get to again!
Post # 5
I had thought single as well and assumed engaged did not count but have been dragged into a toss while engaged.
However, I see the tosses happening less and less at weddings I attend and we skipped it too. Is it becoming an old tradition? We didn’t have many single, non-engaged friends and did not want to single out the few who were.
Post # 6
I kinda see where you are coming from but I agree with Loribeth, if you are engaged you are still considered single for this tradition, at least this is what I have heard. It has never been different for any wedding I have ever gone to, but I don’t ever do them, even though I’m not married yet. I’m just not a fan of some other guy running a garter up my leg, as far as he thinks he can, unless it’s FI. Gives me the heebie geebies, haha.
Post # 7
People still pushed me onto the dance floor when I was engaged for the bouquet toss and I promise you I tried everything I could to get out of it. I really hate that tradition as a guest (even though I really wanted to do it as a bride, so I’m a hypocrite I know).
Post # 8
I was forced onto the dance floor while I was engaged. I tried to get out of it but they made me stand there. The bouquet came right at me too, but the brides divorced mother grabbed and clawed it from me (and the garter was caught by her nephew…awkward).
Post # 9
Yes I agree that this is for all unmarried people whether engaged or not. to be honest if your single then your less likely to be next anyway. Having said that there will be no bouquet or garter toss at my wedding.
Post # 10
I guess I was misinformed. I knew it was to “determine” who was next to get married, but when you’re engaged … I guess I sort of consider that already being figured out that you’ll be getting married.
I personally think it is more fun for the dating couples. I know before hubby and I got engaged, the bouquet toss was always a fun event … make him sweat a little lol.
Now, I just hold babies to make him sweat haha. (it’ll still be a couple of years before we plan to start a family, but he is worried about ‘baby fever’, and doesn’t want me to catch it.).