(Closed) A special lesson…by my FI

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think they had more problems than just pushing the date back!  Getting into all that debt just because they could pay it over a year or two isn’t a good way to make financial decisions!

Post # 6
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think pushing back your date means you are destined for failure.  I think there were many other issues within this story.

Post # 7
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We haven’t pushed back the date.  I thought we were going to when I lost my job, but we figured out finances and we can still eat, pay rent, and pay for the wedding with his income.

Post # 10
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ok I have to say it was a good little story. But I don’t think that it is wrong to wait until you’re better prepared, i.e. doing the responsible thing. It sucks to keep waiting and waiting and waiting. But if this guy wasn’t going to wait for her even after he impregnanted her (which he should have married her then regardless of a wedding IMO), then the marriage was doomed regardless because he wasn’t fully committed. My fiance and I have been engaged for 3yrs. We were supposed to get married in 2009, we waited because money issues and I had the opprotunity to get 3yrs worth of schooling basically for free by putting my wedding off. Since then he’s gotten hurt hasn’t been able to work. He had to move back into his parents house to pay their mortgage. Not so good when he’s the main bread winner. I hated that we waited but I know that I’m going into this 100% ready, 100% committed, and know that we’ve done the best we could to prepare ourselves for our marriage. I’ve hated 98% of the time doing the responsible thing, but I know that we’ve done the right thing.

Post # 11
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s a good story, but I think that the couple had many problems. Good job for your Fiance though. Everyone wanted me to push ours back, but I fought it and now we have a winter wedding instead of an August one.

Post # 12
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Hm, I’m not sure.  Life throws you lots of curve balls, and I definiely think that postponing the wedding can be the most appropriate decision for some people! 

Post # 13
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I feel a little bit hurt by the moral of this “story”. We pushed back our wedding date due to some circumstances that are literally beyond our control…  I don’t feel like it’s bad karma or that we’re in a viscious cycle. Is this really what other people think of my relationship??

Life isn’t always so black & white. I really don’t believe that most couples who change their wedding plans are affected by “princess syndrome” either like your Fiance mentioned… it’s usually life that changes things & sometimes you have to roll with it. 

Moral of MY story: Count your blessings that you’ve never had any major roadblocks put in your way & hug your loved one instead 🙂 

Post # 14
832 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

i think your FI’s lesson was cute and a little funny (:

Post # 15
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I get his point, I get the humor.

Guys don’t analyze things that they write or say like women do, in general. 

Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but I get the point and I totally agree!

Post # 16
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i really dont think them delaying the marriage was  a bad omen. things happen in life,, you just have to roll with the punches. just becaue you delay your wedding, it shouldnt be looked down uppon.

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