Post # 1
After reading posts about etiquette, dresses, suits and the like, I’m realizing and loving how non-traditional I am!
Some examples: Video invites and thank yous, video speeches (maybe not groom and I), non-suited groom, convertible cocktail dress, funky music down the aisle, signing the spregistry on each other’s back, no cake (pie!), no father-daughter/mother-son dance (and not because we don’t love them!), surprise first dance, lio sync show to hubby…
Any other brides doing some non-traditional stuff? Giving it a spin of your own? I’d love to hear some more ideas! 🙂
Post # 3
We are waiving tradition just in the way that we’re not really having that much of a wedding, we’re having more of a party! After the ceremony it will just be dinner, drinks and dancing! No first dance or father/daughter/mother/son dances, no speeches, we will have cake but no cake cutting, just coz we love cake! no garter toss or bouquet toss either. we didn’t want to be on show all day, we just wanted it to be a chance to spend time with our dear friends and family. I can’t wait! I think thats the beauty of these days, unless yu’ve got a very traditional family you can get away with doing whatever you want!
Post # 4
Online invites and Save The Dates, Purple wedding dress (evening type dress), purple veil with a few scattered sparkles, silver sparkly butterfly fairy Flower Girls complete with wings, ceremony in our beautiful garden with my FI singing and playing acoustic guitar to me, sparkly butterflies in our trees and plants, reception is simply a party with buffet, live music & canned music, no wedding cake-home made cupcakes..other stuff too but cant remember it all!!! Oh and very non traditional wedding ring engagement ring and also tattoo wedding ring.
Post # 5
@Missy_Star: Sounds like fun! We won’t do garter toss, but may do bouquet because I have a few cute ideas… But maybe not.
@lifegirl: Your big day sounds very whimsical! Love it 🙂
Somehow I’ve got to figure out my parents’ expectations/traditions and then possibly tweak them or break the news that I don’t want them! I didn’t go with my mom to buy my dress – it just kind of happened without her and dad said I really hurt her feelings. I apologized but it was a one time opportunity. I also don’t want to be walked down the aisle by my dad (even though I love him to pieces) so I’m compromising on that one and will have mom and dad walk me half way then go alone or have FI meet me. I also don’t want to do father-daughter dance – we’ve never danced together in my 27 years, so we’re going to start on my wedding day? And FI would be terribly uncomfortable to dance with his mom… He’ll barely manage with me, lol (and we may just do a short one and then some fun music).
I don’t want to break hearts but I also want to follow mine.
Post # 6
@HotnHollerin: good for you:) I think its lovely that you will have mum and dad both walk you half way…and I personally love the idea of your FI meeting you half way…love it!…I would have done something similar except I cant really as he will be playing guitar and singing…I debated NOT having my Dad but dont want to hurt his feelings and he is my Dad after all:) There is no way he will dance though EVER so dont have to worry about father daughter dances….we are just having a party and no other stuff…not even speaches although I wont be surprise if his best man gets up anyway to say a little something…
Post # 7
@lifegirl: I think it’ll be a good compromise for them – I just don’t know if dad will be hurt. It’s not something we’ve ever talked about. I wasn’t one of those girls who has dreamed about her wedding forever, so it never came up!
What will. Your hunny be singing?
We’re doing 30 second speeches by video, that dad will put together and show periodically throughout the reception – like an awards show :). My hunny and I will thank people for coming.
Post # 8
@HotnHollerin: He will be playing and singing Stay With Me by Phil Collins…it has the most beautiful lyrics…:) With your Dad I would think if you told him that you want him and mum to both walk you down the aisle he would be ok with that…unless he is really hung up on old traditions…its not like you are leaving him out…you just love both your parents so much that you want them to both stand up with you..:)
Post # 9
@Missy_Star: My wedding will be the same!! We’re describing it as a party, that 2 people just happen to be getting married at. No cake cutting though, doing a macaron tower instead!
His parents, alot of our other family, and even some friends were originally taken aback by how non traditional we were going (no showers, no bridesmaids/ groomsmen, no kids, no organized dances or speeches) but are now starting to clue in that we’re not traditional people so this isn’t out of character.
Post # 10
– Secular ceremony with a handfasting.
– I DIYed almost everything. STDs, invites, decor.
– I am walking myself down the aisle.
– No father/daughter, mother/son, or family dances. We’re doing a first dance and that’s it.
– No garter or bouquet toss.
– Cupcakes and s’mores bar instead of cake.
– Non traditional music for the processional/recessional.
– Mismatched bridesmaids (same color and fabric, different styles) and mismatched ties for the boys (FI has pink/grey/black striped, GMs are in black with white pindots, FFIL and little brother are wearing patterned bowties of some sort). The guys are just wearing black Chucks (the rental shoes were ugly) because they all have them and FFIL/little brother are wearing whatever).