(Closed) A strange plus-one situation

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Since you’ve never met the person she’s living with and don’t really know their relationship status, I don’t think you should feel obligated to allow her to invite a guest. Plus, since she’s family, she will know other people at the wedding so there shouldn’t be an issue of her not having anyone to talk to.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmmm, that is sticky! I just gave everyone a plus-one and literally no one who wasn’t engaged or married brought their plus-one, and this includes my cousins who do always show up with Christmas dates, BUT I don’t know how much that helps you. If its just her, I’d just give her the plus-one and cross your fingers that she doesn’t bring him. Otherwise, its just one more one? I’m sorry I’m not super helpful. 🙁

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Pretend you don’t know about the guy/boyfriend, whatever. If she’s really upset she’ll talk to you about it. Doesn’t sound like someone that warrants an invite.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Miss BBQ:  If she’s still married and hasn’t publicly acknowledged this guy is her boyfriend, why should you?  Invite her on her own.

Post # 8
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988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’d invite her on her own. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It depends on your wedding vibe too I think. I am having a very small and intimate wedding with family and a limited number of close friends. I only want ppl at my wedding that I PERSONALLY know and love! I would invite her, and only her. HOWEVER if I were having a huge wedding, and my budget was bigger I would let her have her +1. I don’t think you should feel bad for not letting her bring her flavor of the week.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

If you aren’t super picky, I’m apt to say give her a plus one. She might be going through some stuff if she’s recently divorced, and being at a wedding might stir up memories if she’s by herself.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2007

When I first made up my guest list, I thought that everyone deserved a plus one, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it’s about who you want to be there for your big day. A bunch of added plus ones is taking away spots from people you actually care about being there. A distant cousin’s maybe-maybe-not boyfriend doesn’t sound like someone that  should be included. I would say no plus one, and hope she doesn’t say anything about it or decide to bring him along anyway…

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think i’d ignore the … friend and just send her an invite.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would invite her on her own.

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