Post # 1
This may be a unique post as it’s not actually the bride that is stressing here (me), but my FI. He is worried that the RSVPs won’t come in for our reception in November, and he told me last night he’s really stressed out b/c we have to make minimum numbers.
The minimum number that we can have at our venue is 45, and we sent out about 43 invites. Please note that about half of those invites are couples and families (meaning more than one person to an invite) and then the other invites are singles with guests (we allowed a +1 for every single, and one of my very good friends even got a +2 b/c she’s unconventional like that, lol). One of those invites was a symbolic invite (my brother who will be in med school abroad at the time). I sent the invites out on August 17th – they were pretty quick to get to the recipients that following Monday and Tuesday. Our event is November 9th, and the RSVP deadline is October 1st. We didn’t do STDs b/c we only got engaged July 14th of this year. To date, including the two of us, we have 15 guests confirmed.
Hence, can you ladies please share your stories and kind words that he has nothing to worry about… yet? It’s not even September, and the deadline is October. I keep telling him that people are lazy with RSVPs and that the singles probably want to wait closer to the deadline in hopes of finding a guest but to no avail. Him stressing out is making me stress out! 🙁
Post # 3
People wait until the last minute! You sent them out really early which is nice to give people a heads up, but also can backfire because it will get set aside and forgotten about. You might find yourself calling a lot of people when it gets down to the wire to follow up on rsvps. But give it time, you’ll get more. 🙂
Post # 4
We’ve barely received rsvps for our Oct wedding yet, just chill they will come.
Post # 5
@MrsNewDay: Honestly, I wouldn’t start to worry, yet. There is still tons of time for people to RSVP, and you are right in that the single people will probably wait the longest (for the most part) to reply because they may be looking for someone to attend with them. Just try and tell your FI to relax, theres still tons of time to reply!
On the other hand, I’m a huge worry-wort so, I’ll probably be feeling exactly like your FI is when we send out our invites for our E-party thats in January! lol
Post # 6
@jny1179: Yeah, I didn’t realize how early I sent them out until I checked out the invites threads on WB. Since we didn’t do STDs, I wanted to get the word out faster via earlier invites and realized that I was risking the “forget about it” issue.
I have a bunch of friends that I know are definitely coming – they are probably just waiting to find out if their SO can make it (i.e. working on the weekend or whatever) or if they can get a date.
Heck, my own parents’ RSVP didn’t come until today, and the date we set was 50% due to their schedule.
I want to show my FI this thread so he can relax. Or at least try, lol.
Post # 7
Not going to lie, I recently found an RSVP card that we never sent for a wedding… in 2012.
It was kind of obvious we were going (FI was a groomsman) but then one day he asked me about our meal selections, I was like didn’t you send that card? I thought we checked those off?
I found out later he texted them our RSVP because he lost the card…. we were THOSE PEOPLE the bride & groom had to contact to check on our attendance, GAH!
So people will RSVP, even if you have to FORCE them to, hahaha. 🙂
After the deadline you are free to do a friendly follow up on anyone who doesn’t send in.
Like us. Sorry! 😛
Post # 8
@CakeyP: Don’t worry. Have you seen the “Faux Pas” thread? Plenty of us Bees “forgot” to RSVP or “thought” they RSVP’ed when they never did. Thankfully we don’t have a huge guest list so following up won’t be too much of a chore.
Post # 9
People always RSVP at the last minute – learned this in project management, whatever deadline I give someone is the date when they will do something by. Tell your FI not to stress out, there will be plenty of people attending to help make your minimum!
Post # 10
Most of our RSVPs came the week before our deadline. October 1st is still sooo far away!
Post # 11
My FI and I are “those people” as well. We always send them in late – it’s terrible. Our wedding is Oct. 19 and our RSVP deadline is Sept 15. Of 150 people invited, we hae 50 yes’s and about 3 no’s. We are assuming that karma will make it so that we will have to track down at least half of the folks invited after the RSVP deadline.
Post # 12
I know the waiting is stressful but try to stop thinking about it! honestly you will probably end up having to call some of the stragglers who don’t RSVP . The majority of ours came in right before the deadlineif worst case, you have to pay for minimum head count , even if 45 a don’t come you can ask your caterer to throw in extras for guests tsat are there in place of actual people. I asked about this at venues that had minimums since we had a smaller guest list for our area. Most agreed to give us an extra station for cocktail hour, maybe a dessert extra or speciality coffee bar..
Post # 13
Just wanted to give an update. 🙂
The RSVP deadline came and passed, and we have a little over 60 confirmed! My FI was worrying for nothing, but now I’m worried b/c our cake is only for 60 people. The FI says that his guy friends would just prefer to booze over eating cake, but I can’t run that risk.
Plus ::sheepish grin:: I was hoping to have some leftover cake to bring home!