A Stressed Out Groom? No! FI Stressing Over RSVPs…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

People wait until the last minute! You sent them out really early which is nice to give people a heads up, but also can backfire because it will get set aside and forgotten about. You might find yourself calling a lot of people when it gets down to the wire to follow up on rsvps. But give it time, you’ll get more. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’ve barely received rsvps for our Oct wedding yet, just chill they will come.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@MrsNewDay:  Honestly, I wouldn’t start to worry, yet. There is still tons of time for people to RSVP, and you are right in that the single people will probably wait the longest (for the most part) to reply because they may be looking for someone to attend with them. Just try and tell your FI to relax, theres still tons of time to reply! 

On the other hand, I’m a huge worry-wort so, I’ll probably be feeling exactly like your FI is when we send out our invites for our E-party thats in January! lol

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not going to lie, I recently found an RSVP card that we never sent for a wedding… in 2012.

It was kind of obvious we were going (FI was a groomsman) but then one day he asked me about our meal selections, I was like didn’t you send that card? I thought we checked those off?
I found out later he texted them our RSVP because he lost the card…. we were THOSE PEOPLE the bride & groom had to contact to check on our attendance, GAH!

So people will RSVP, even if you have to FORCE them to, hahaha. 🙂
After the deadline you are free to do a friendly follow up on anyone who doesn’t send in.
Like us. Sorry! 😛

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

People always RSVP at the last minute – learned this in project management, whatever deadline I give someone is the date when they will do something by. Tell your FI not to stress out, there will be plenty of people attending to help make your minimum!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Most of our RSVPs came the week before our deadline.  October 1st is still sooo far away!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My FI and I are “those people” as well. We always send them in late – it’s terrible. Our wedding is Oct. 19 and our RSVP deadline is Sept 15. Of 150 people invited, we hae 50 yes’s and about 3 no’s. We are assuming that karma will make it so that we will have to track down at least half of the folks invited after the RSVP deadline.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I know the waiting is stressful but try to stop thinking about it! honestly you will probably end  up having to call some of the stragglers who don’t RSVP . The majority of ours came in right before the deadlineif worst case, you have to pay for minimum head count , even if 45 a don’t come you can ask your caterer to throw in extras for guests tsat are there in place of actual people.  I asked about this at venues that had minimums since we had a smaller guest list for our area. Most agreed to give us an extra station for cocktail hour, maybe a dessert extra or speciality coffee bar..

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