Post # 1
Yesterday my fh (whom hasn’t “officially” proposed yet) told me that we should begin planning for our wedding–on October 15th! As college graduation nears and job applications to places such as various European countries have been going out, we’ve realized that unless we get married things are going to end up incredibly difficult in the way of work visas and whatnot.
I am incredibly excited as we’ve been together for several years as well as sharing an apartment and this was a step we’ve been ready to take for a while now, just haven’t had the time with being in college. But now is the time.
And I’m freaking out! There are so many things to be done and we’re on a limited budget but trying to be creative and fun at the same time. We’re thinking enchanted forest/oktoberfest (fh is German). It will be at my grandparents cabin which is beautiful but a little limited on space. Narrowing down the guest list is taxing and with such a huge family I’m afraid I’ll end up leaving people out. Deciding on diy invites or ordering them. Not to mention trying to decide “tent or no tent” whether we should get a caterer or try to make all the food ourselves–it’s really overwhelming. I want to diy as much as I can to cut costs but at the same time, I only have 3 months!
If anyone else is in a bit of a time crunch for their October date, I would love some guidance!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Congrats! My best advice is to take a few deep breaths, define for yourselves how you want the day to feel and look, delegate a lot, and get movin. You may be in for the most crazy awesome fun planning sprint ever!
Post # 4
Personally, I would get the tent in case of rain. I would buy DIY invites from the craftstore, but also check wal-mart since they are usually less expensive but have the same sometimes (I found mine at Joann’s first and bought them then found them at wal-mart for like $9 cheaper.
If your family is willing, maybe do a pot-luck where everyone brings something. Make sure you provide the main dish. And for the dress, buy off the rack, it takes less time to do alterations because the day you buy it is the day they can start alterations.
For flowers, Joann’s also has some beautiful silk flowers and wrapping them is SUPER easy 🙂 For bridesmaids, little black dresses purchased and add some colored ribbon around the waiste to make them different from guests.
For the cake, ask family and friends if anyone can bake really well, and if you have a lot of people sheet cakes from costco are amazing! Make a little cake for you and FI to cut and then cut up the sheet cake to feed the guests.
I hope this helps 🙂 Let me know if you need any other help.
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Hello date twin! 🙂
Congrats and good luck! 🙂
Post # 7
How awesome and exciting:) My two cents:
“Narrowing down the guest list is taxing and with such a huge family I’m afraid I’ll end up leaving people out”
Write down EVERY SINGLE PERSON you would even possibly want to invite. Do it separately and then when you get back together you might realize the other person has some that you missed. Go through your facebook friends list if you have one. Then once you have a master list…start making cuts. Be realistic in terms of your budget and venue. Cutting in groups is helpful and can help avoid hurt feelings (ex: cutting coworkers, cutting plus 1s for people not engaged/married etc) if anyone asks just say “I’m sorry, I would really love for you to come, but we’re keeping it very intimate.” They don’t need to know any more than that.
“Deciding on diy invites or ordering them”
Because of budget, I say DIY (unless you find a great deal somewhere). Enlist some friends and family and get those babies knocked out.
“Not to mention trying to decide “tent or no tent””
“whether we should get a caterer or try to make all the food ourselves”
I think that with the right menu making all the food would be better on the budget and wouldn’t be the hardest thing with some help. Perhaps a buffet style dinner with mostly food that doesn’t need to be kept warm…pasta salad, potato salad, cassaroles, veggie plates, cheeses, etc. If you really do the OctoberFest thing why not put a bunch of brats and sausages on the grill and make it a party.
Post # 8
Thank you ladies for all your helpful advice! We definitely decided to go with the tent and I’m doing DIY invites right now as we speak (here’s my inspiration http://www.oncewed.com/40005/wedding-blog/diy-wedding/diy-watercolor-wedding-invitations/ ). As far as food, I’ve taken on the idea of mg1363 and will be doing brats on the grill along with some salads and a cheese bar (We *love* good cheese).
I forgot to mention that I already have a dress! My grandma gave me her dress and it is *gorgeous* with layers of lace, which I happen to love. It fits me perfectly except for the length and my grandma said I could change whatever I wanted so I’ll get a few alterations to bring a little more up to date, but other than that I won’t need anything else done with it!
We’ve sat down and gone through registries and are starting to figure out rings, decor and whatnot. I feel a little better after having a week to sit down and get things done. Thanks again for all your suggestions, I’m so thrilled to be month twins with you all!