A talk with the boyfriend today…

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Oooooh, This sounds promising.

Congratulations on finding a way to get your LIFE PLAN into the conversation !!

Thereby getting him to talk…

Men do many things… but they usually “say what they mean” when it comes to Marriage.

He has given you the following information in this conversation:

1- He wants kids

2- Sees you married before you are 25 (August 2014)

3- He is open to getting married without his sister present (so again 2014 not 2015)

This is practically asking, WITHOUT saying the magic words…

He’s on track

Now for some wonderful FACTS

Men are most often to propse in the following ways:

1- Around a significant event (Holiday, Anniversary, Birthday, etc)

2- More men propose in December than any other month… and the most US Proposals happen between Thanksgiving and Valentines

3- Men usually propose in “a place” of significance… so on vacation, where you went on your first date, or somewhere else that could be considered special

4- Lol, and the rest of the men… well they propose when & where they are comfy… between February 15th and the end of November.  Which is WHY so many get those “at home” Proposals that you hear about here on WBee so often.

The odds are in your favour.

*fingers crossed*

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@LeonardLady:  I think he was feeling you out. It is obvious that he has already thought about getting married since he had so much to say about his sister not being at his wedding. I believe that this was a very promising start.

I doubt he will propose this weekend or anytime that soon but I’ll keep my fingers crossed for a Christmas or New Years proposal for you!!

My SO had a similar convo this summer and it so turned out that he was hoping to get married before his b’day next year (2nd Feb). There is no way that would have happened!! He has absolutely no idea the amount of time nor planning that goes into these things. Things just snowballed from there.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @tiff-tiff-tiff:  lol, yes that is a good point… men have no clue about timing… especially so when it comes to getting married / planning a Wedding.

A guy makes up his mind and wants it to happen usually pretty quick.

(My first marriage I got engaged at the end of Summer, and my Fiance thought we’d get married on Valentines day… wasn’t happening.  In reality it was a about a year from the Engagement… following Summer)

They don’t realize how much time, effort (and sometimes money) goes into planning say a traditional BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding…

Lots of guys think this is something that can be pulled off in just a few months time… they don’t have a clue about how to book a Venue, choose a Caterer, food, Invites, Bridal Party, Music, and the countless other things us gals tend to do.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@LeonardLady:   Fingers crossed for a holiday proposal!!! We’ll be date twins!!!  🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

Promising conversation for sure!! 

My SO doesn’t believe in timelines and thinks you should go with the flow and says you can’t plan life. So basically having a timeline conversation with him is virtually impossible. He can make small plans for like a concert in 2 months or dinner next week, but when it comes to big life events… you just have to go with the flow with him.

I have NO clue if he has anything planned yet since we went to talking all the time about rings in August to no mention of it since then. He’s either got some big plan for the first time in his life… or I have no idea! 

My bottom line is married before kids and he wants kids now… so I know it won’t be too much longer! 

 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@This Time Round:  Absolutely great advice! I agree it is promising. My now husband was almost the exact same way at about the same time of the year– we got engaged on 2/22, but I would be shocked if you had to wait that long!

I would be sure to have some idea of what ring you want. For my husband, that was the scary part of getting engaged– when he realized I had no problem sending him a paragraph with some links on exactly what to buy, it was no longer scary for him. 

Post # 10
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@LeonardLady:  I’m curious. If my so wanted to buy a house with me I wouldn’t without engagement. I see a lot of bees do though. did it concern you at all commiting to that without a commitment. I’m engaged now but I mean when we were just dating

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@This Time Round:  Tell me about it!!! SO couod not believe most venues have to be booked at least one year in advance. I don’t know what he has in mind but definitely he didn’t like the whole it will take a year from the monent we start planning… and obviously that won’t happen until there’s a proposal. 

Last night we were texting (he’s on the other side of the world right now 🙁 )and he said “Don’t want to wait any longer. Let’s get it done” . I jokingly reminded him about the venue timeline. He answered: “I guess we will have to get married and have a reception party a year later” whaaaattt? Not sure what has gotten into him. Or what the whole thing means. I can’t tell the parts when he is joking from the rest! 

He even said ok we’ll have to get married at the airport when I get there! – obviously this one I know is a joke. Or at least I hope so! Lol

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @Sporty-Bee:  ooooh, he has it bad !! (Good for you)

I would say that a Proposal won’t be far off now.

I’ve said it before on WBee (especially here on the Waiting Board) THERE IS NOTHING as sexy in life as a Man who is in LOVE.

A Man in Love has a Plan… and he wants to see it happen… and it wants it to happen soon, cause he is frightened that he’s found THE ONE that if he doesn’t act soon, someone else will notice and his woman will be lost (it is all about the Male “Hunting” gene… when they see a Wonderful Animal, they see it as a GORGEOUS Creature, they appreciate it for what it is, they don’t want it to get away, or someone else to posses it… they will learn its habits, they will spend days on end pursueing it… it is what men were born to do).

And us gals… lol, we are the “Gatherers”… we go quietly around observing and gathering information… we learn all the man’s secrets… what he likes, what he doesn’t like, HELL we know more about them than they do.  Lol

Where we all get thrown off track tho is we spend too much time thinking like a girl, and no time seeing things like a man would… a man has to be a man (he has to hunt)… if we do to much recognicense on them, then we are pursuing them… and they don’t want a woman that is like a man… they want a woman who is confident to be a woman.

Or as one other Bee said here awhile back… No Hunter wants to bring home road kill… he wants to bring home A PRIZE

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Good for you waiting bee!  Sounds like it is coming very soon…and it sounds like he has NO intention of waiting until 2015 to get married…WOW!!

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