A term meaning the opposite of "Bridezilla"

posted 3 years ago in Names
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Chillzilla.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

“a regular person who happens to be getting married”

or

“bride”

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay

I think I’ve been a total door mat in the whole planning process. 🙁 not recommended. 

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

briderella?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

ohh we should be making the wedding about ourselves, but to wach for the line of not being a bridezilla.

if you try to be too nice, you will drag your wedding just because you were afraid of being called a bridezilla.

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I saw the term “bridechilla” used on onewed.com. That might fit the bill 🙂

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hahahaha chillazilla.  I love it.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ohh I do like bridechilla, too.

Honestly, I’m not afraid to be called a bridezilla. I feel like it’s more ‘gaslighting’ really. Everyone says, “You’re the bride, it’s your wedding, do what you want,” but then the second you do what you want, you get called a bridezilla?

Then there are some rules that I don’t even know where they came from – if you want your BMs to have their hair and makeup professionally done, then pay for it yourself. If you want them all in the same shoes, pay for it yourself. Like, it’s only ok to ask them to pay for their dress. My friends definitely wanted us to have our hair/makeup done. They didn’t say that we had to, but “everyone else” was doing it. Of course I had to! Cost me $190 last time for my hair and to buy new makeup which I did myself (to save money, bc the makeup lady was ridiculous).

But, what about someone like me who finds a dress for $50 for their BMs when everyone else had their girls spend $200-300? Is it wrong of me to then ask them to get flipflops and do their hair/makeup if at the end that will still cost less than $200 total? I paid more than that to be in their weddings, right?

I think it really all depends on the circumstances. There are so many different customs and traditions and really, you should just take into consideration how you’ve been treated before as a BM by your bride friends. It really sucks for the first person getting married, because you’re the one setting the standard. But some countries, you pay for your friends to be in your wedding (you buy the dress, shoes, etc). Some places you don’t.

I’m pretty sure I will decline ever being in anyones bridal party again. It’s way too much stress and money, it would really depend on my circumstances and who is asking. But, if someone wants to call me a bridezilla – whatever, I waited for my turn, so what if I get what I want?

/end rant

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