(Closed) A useful Tip…(maybe)

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

I second this one! When my now husband started casually mentioning rings and weddings and such, I let him know that it would be nice if I had a year to plan. He didn’t really get that we needed that long to plan a wedding (and sometimes you don’t), but for the amount of people we were having and where/when I wanted to have it, he would need to take that into consideration. I think it helped move him along :o)

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I did that too.  Many guys have no CLUE how long it takes to plan a wedding.  It’s like, in their minds the wedding just magically gets put together all by itself within weeks.  My guy kept mentioning (on his own) that he wanted to be married within a year, but I knew he hadn’t actively started taking the steps needed to propose.  He was SHOCKED when I told him I’d need 9 months to a year to plan.  That seemed to light a fire under his butt and I’m (goddess willing) expecting a proposal any day now!

Now it’s time to have the “birds and the bees” talk, since he’s talking about having kids in a year and I still don’t even have a ring…. 

*sigh*

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I told my boyfriend a long time ago I wanted 2 years to plan a wedding (live in a major city where things book up quickly), so he needed to take that into consideration as to when he wanted to propose/get engaged. We will hopefully be engaged very soon and then have the wedding in the spring/summer of 2012. Which is perfect timing for us. 

Post # 6
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MsCubs: Are you in Chicago? If so – Do you know where you’re going to look at rings? – just curious.

Post # 8
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2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

This is what I had to tell my FI (Bf at the time) also. He was going to wait until we bought a house to purpose. But I explained we would need 1 year max but more like 2 years to save up for it. So he went ahead and purposed a month after the talk.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@MsCubs:  That’s great you talked to him about not leaving you hanging indefinitely after the ring purchase!

Regaring point #2: I’m kind of bummed becuase I live in a major city too….I’d need at least a year to plan and I want a fall wedding. And this whole wedding logistics nightmare thing that I keep hearing about is making me think maybe I don’t want to move (into his place) and plan a wedding in the same year! And if he proposes after October we’d have to have almost a 2 year engagement. Such a headache…I can’t believe how clueless guys are sometimes.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

God, I wish my FI would have thought of  #1. He bought my ring when we had only been dating for four months…he proposed when we were together for eight months…we’ve now been together almost two years and still can’t have a wedding. We’ve decided to elope finally, but gosh, don’t guys have any common sense?

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