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I am doing the happy dance right now!  Just got off of a call (speakerphone) with R,  my best guy friend in the world and his now wife R, one of my other great friends.  Here's a little background of why I am so happy for them!

Let this be a Valentine love lesson for us all! 

I have had the pleasure of knowing this couple for several years now.  R and R both endured some very rough times and they had been married for over a decade.  They are parents to one gorgeous daughter (almost 11) and a son (almost 3). 

Like many couples, they let life situations and being parents take precedence over their relationship and had a good life, but let issues arise.  I loved them both and was so saddened to see that happen. 

They divorced two years ago and it was heartwrenching.  I remember crying with R over the phone and just listening for so long.  I was heartbroken for the kids too.  But an amazing thing happened over time.  They learned that they had taken each other for granted.

Last year both were actively dating other people, and adjusting to single parent life, which is not easy.  My friend R, was on an afternoon date with a girlfriend and R, (my other friend, his xwife) ran into them at the mall.  It was a turning point.  Both immediately seemed to realize that maybe this was not where they wished to be.  Maybe they had jumped the gun and not given their marriage the chance for survival they should have done.  He saw her, she saw him, and their love still was there..beneath all the life stuff.

They began dating later summer of 2008 and went to counseling.  In late 2008 they moved back in together and purchased a new lovely home..but something was missing..

Fast forward to New Years' Eve 2008.  I get a call from R.  He and R were having a fun NYE party for their friends and neighbors and their kids at home.  He was driving home from work and we were talking.  I asked him when he was going to ask R to marry him again as I had to approve the ring he'd buy her! lol!  We began chit chatting about that and I suggested to him to surprise her at midnight and ask her at the party and have a champagne toast!  Our plans went even further and next thing I know, I was instructing R to drive to their florist and have the florist make a bouquet and even have the french ribbon wrapped at the bottom properly and hand it to her at midnight when he asked her!

Well he did.  But not that way.  R forgot the flowers, accidentally leaving them in the trunk of his car but after all their guests left, he remembered the flowers and they talked upstairs just the two of them.  He handed her the bouquet, and asked her to marry him!

Now to today's call.  Originally R n R (my friends) were going to get remarried this summer in a beach ceremony and R (her) was going to sing at my wedding..I found out they jumped the gun and GOT MARRIED AGAIN!  They did a simple justice of the peace but will be having their actual beach wedding this summer..

Right now we're hoping they might book a flight to Jamaica and celebrate their honeymoon along with our engagi-moon at the same resort next month. 

Love is amazing isn't it!  I am in tears right now!  Tears of joy!

T, will be so thrilled when I tell him in a bit!

I just talked to the happy couple again!  We'll meet up with them in the early summer for a few days at the beach for their un-official beach wedding.  

Despite their saying they didn't want us to get them a gift, I'm here eating lunch and surfing for an interesting one to get them! 

RnR, the encore couple as I call them, are amazing.  A true testament that love survives..but is to never be taken for granted!

Thanks Miss Spring Roll!  Really enjoyed your blog today.

RnR(the encore couple) are so cute!  And their 2 kids are cute too!

This story is important and I thank you blossom and Miss SR for reading it because the underlying meaning is to never lose that connection.  Realize that later on when the photos are in the books, you're celebrating your tenth anniversary, there are kids running around the house playing and screaming, that you still connect to the man you call your husband and he to the woman he calls his wife.

Life won't always be honeymoons and room service I can tell you.  But if there is a deep respect and abiding love and you WORK at it, you've got the hardest part done!  Rest should be easy.  You're a team! 

RnR are getting married this summer and I can't wait!  We're all gonna have a blast and yes, I'm singing at it too~

All of them are sitting on cloud 9 with their happiness right now.  And if you want to see how to keep reconnected, the encore groom R, used the principles of Dr. Willard/Steve Harley and "His Needs Her Needs" which is a book I believe in very much!  According to that book, each couple needs at minimum 15 hours a week together and it spells out alot more.  I think it's fantastic! 

They overcame alot.  She (R, the encore wife) almost married somebody else btw!  That also happened during the time they were divorced.  I remember hearing she was with this guy (he was a jerk btw, really was) and cried.  Eventually I got to thinking, well if my two friends are happier apart, then so be it and I will just be their good friend, but they are best together. 

I wish this incredible couple all the happiness in the world! 

Thanks, it makes me always smile a small bit when I think of how they overcame the odds.  It really is amazing!