Post # 1
Isn’t life funny? I’ve spent many years trying to avoid getting pregnant by using various types of birthcontrol and by being cautious. Birthcontrol medications are
- have health risks of heart attack and stroke
- make you vomit
- make you moody
- make you fat
But we use them because god forbid we get pregnant before we are married! Then what happens? You get married and then your mindset has to change. Now, suddenly it’s OKAY to get pregnant. In fact, it’s EXPECTED. People even ask newlyweds at their reception when they are going to start having kids! Let the couple be married for 24 hours people!
Okay….it’s baby time! “Let’s do this!” You do it once, twice, 20 times even. Surely, you must be pregnant! You didn’t use a condom! You didn’t take your pill! I feel myself getting bigger already! Let’s pick out baby furniture! I’m going to be a mom!
You look at the white stick in your hand. It’s negative.
Imagine all the money I could have saved not wasting it on all those birthcontrol pills over the years! I could’ve probably paid for my wedding with that cash, rather than being in debt like I am now!
Isn’t life funny!
Post # 3
I can’t fully empathize with you on this because in Canada, your insurance covers the cost of birth control. However, I totally get your frustration. *HUGS* It’ll happen.
Post # 4
I laughed so hard at this. Seriously. It’s funny how it changes though, “If you have sex, or even LOOK at each other funny, you’ll get pregnant!” to “It’s a borderline miracle to even conceive, much less carry a healthy baby to term!”
Post # 5
oh it started when we got engaged…. people would thrust poor unsuspecting babies into my arms and say “this time next year, it will be your baby you will be holding”
ugghhhh – hubby doesnt want babies and im neither here or there about it so i thought i would create myself a fertility issue to fob people off with… but no, now i get slips of a paper with doctors name & phone numbers and sucessful IVF stories…. yikes
Post # 6
The right birth control shouldn’t cause all those symptoms! Those are really sucky!
Have you been trying for a long time? Have you gotten checked out? There could be an underlying issue…endo, PCOS, scar tissue, tilted uterus, etc.
Birth control is the ONLY thing saving my uterus from getting so bad it has to be taken out, so it might even be a little blessing in disguise you’ve been on it. There is a website called idreamofbaby.com and lots of women discuss their issues getting pregnant there.
Some say it even takes 6 months to get “out” of your system. My doctor says you’re most fertile the month you go off it. I do know the shot takes longer to get out of your system.
There could be more than going on than meets the eye, that’s all =]
Post # 7
eloping – wow, hah! I was actually considering that route myself, but now that you’re getting doctors’ phone numbers and successful IVF stories, I think I’m going to have to reconsider!
Post # 8
Just tell those nosy busy bodies, “well, I don’t have a uterus….”
Post # 9
@EJ…. heheheheh. i dont mean to make fun of infertility but i just dont get people that think its ok to intrude on this stuff.
there is one girl at work that makes it a weekly discussion with people and i know she has asked “so when are you having a baby” to another lady here and that poor woman has had a couple of miscarriages already. i find it such a personal question that i tend to assume that most woman of child baring age might have fertility issues so i NEVER mention having babies to them
Post # 11
@eloping, I agree. But if you say something really personal back (even if it’s not true), it’s fun to watch them turn 5 shades of red.
Telling them you used to have man parts is up there on that list, too…=P
or, like Rachael had in Friends…a “teeny weenie”
Note: i was on depo. Didn’t gain any weight…i DID notice i was hungrier though and had to be much more conscous about my snacks
Post # 12
@chicago… that seemed like an intense response, maybe i’m reading it with the wrong tone?
I’m not even married yet and Ive known for years I desperatly want a baby one day. I feel ya! I keep thinking, watch I’ll have issues getting pregnant and the last ten years on bc would have been a waste! However, I’m still on it. In the beginning I had to mess around with different kinds. One kind literally made my uterus fall apart and another made me crazy! It only took about 6 months to find the right pill for me and Im sticking with it till the end!
I do know that when the time comes, in like two years if I get what I want I’ll be in your boat! Good luck!
Post # 13
@eloping… I’m afraid Im normally the one putting my foot in my mouth with the too personal questions. I think its because I have no shame and I share things so I tend to over do it! I TRY very very hard to not do it. I dont attack unpregnant people but as soon as they are its like I have verbal vomit!
Post # 14
@Mrscingle… i hear you about once they are pregnant-thats me too! one of the PA’s here told me 2 weeks ago she is pregnant and im already planning her January baby shower, my office is already full of decorating & party stuff and im all over her about taking it easy, not lifting, how is her daughter (her daughter is adopted so a huge shock to a 7yr only child) handling the news (this bub was a ivf one) ect… i get super excited there i sniff potential plans in the air for me to arrange
Post # 15
lol FI cousin is pregnant and I find myself asking her EVERYTHING at every family function. I like in a house with a lot of his family (cousin, sister, 2nd cousing just moved out) so I would be comfortable with them but she is cousin by marriage and I barely know her! Oh well, I’ll let people ask me tons of questions even personal ones when I’m pregnant and I’ll love it!
Post # 16
Here’s life (at least the one I’ve seen in the South): Girls who SHOULDN’T be having babies get knocked up left and right. Married woman or financially/emotionally stable women that WANT to have babies and are in a position to do so, have a much harder time conceiving or can’t have them. What gives?!?