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This is my first post so I am still new to how to navigate and use the boards. As my screenname suggests, I don’t know much about weddings and certainly don’t know how to plan one. Recently my SO has been asking me about my thoughts on engagement and wedding plans. Anyone else feel awkward when they had to select a wedding date in order to sign up here? I did. I had never done that before. I hope I don’t jinx myself by setting a date before I’ve even talked and agreed to one with SO.
Thanks for letting me join your community, and I hope to get to know y’all better!
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@weddingclueless: Yeah I so know what you mean! Propoer confused me – I’m singing up to stalk the waiting boards, isnt it obvious I don’t have a date?! LOL.
Welcome to the hive. This place is brilliant for support and advice, especially when you’ve talked all of your friends and family to death with the subject. I use it now instead of talking to my best friend, since its obvious that even if she knew anything she wouldn’t tell me and she’s probably so bored of it now!
So tell us a little about you and your SO. How long have you been together? How old are you? What’s your living situation etc?
It’s great that your SO is taking the first step in talking about it, and asking for your input. You just need to think about what you like. Imagine your ideal wedding and go from there. Would you rather something small and intimate, or a large and lavish event? It’s all on your personality as a couple. Enjoy 🙂
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Glad to see you here! Yes, do give us more info on your relationship? We all live vicariously through each other! 🙂
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@aprilnewbee: Oh good, so I’m not the only one!
@sassyfras & @somedaymrsWDS Thanks for a warm welcome 🙂
SO & I met freshman yr in college (17/18), been together 7yrs. We felt a lot of pressure to get engaged in his senior year of college. Family and friends kept asking us if we were going to get married or what our plans were. Neither of us felt ready at the time, phew! I’m glad we were on the same page then. We got a chance to live together for a while but then had to be separated for school/work. We’ve been in long distance for the past… 3 yrs? Geez that’s a long time! I haven’t counted it before.
Luckily we may be in the same area after I graduate, so we may be moving in together again. The thing is that I would like us to be engaged or at least seriously talking about it and planning our future together before we move in. I really don’t want to move in just for the rent. I think he understands this and is on the same page because he randomly asked for my ring size and my ring preferences, and now he’s asking me about when I want to get engaged and married and what kind of wedding and etc. 6mon ago I was hounding him with these kinds of questions and didn’t get many answers but now he’s the one asking! I’m glad it’s on his mind now.
It feels good to write this out. Thanks for letting me share 🙂
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@weddingclueless: Welcome to the waiting hive!
There are different threads that are highlighted at the top that you might find helpful, such as ‘how to handle the waiting period in your life’, ‘waiting chant’ and also, a bi-weekly shut it up pact (thought it sounds like your BF asked you to look at things!! Exciting!!)
You might find it helpful to look under the ‘recaps’ section and ‘themes’ section…and depending on your $$ situation-The DIY section as well.
PS: Anyone else feel awkward when they had to select a wedding date in order to sign up here? I did YES!!! I just selected more of a ‘walk date’…but then again, that’s a different story of mine and I had to work through some things, then have an honest conversation with my SO about what I want out of life…and now my date is the date we want to get married + a year (SO wants to get married 9/15/2015….but we are not ‘officially’ engaged yet lol!)
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Welcome to the hive!! 🙂 bzzz!!
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@weddingclueless: lol we all had to do that. Don’t worry about the date you can always change it. Welcome!!
I debated for a while adding myself to the Waiting list, but finally took the plunge (hope that wasn’t jinxing either! although I find he has been bringing it up or other things pertaining to our future more since i joined hehe.
This is such a fun site.
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@veryberry13: thanks for the suggestions! I’ll take a look 🙂
thanks 🙂 are you also waiting bees?
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@weddingclueless: Yep i sure am! #231 on the waiting list hehe.
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Welcome! I’ve only been here a week myself. Like you, I’ve been with my FI almost 6 years, we committed forever years ago & said we’d get married after we hit 10 years. Officially got the ring & proposal last April on vacation, didn’t see it coming – casual & romantic. Now I’m a bride in waiting (encore)- don’t really have a wedding date, I put down 4-1-15 (April Fool’s Day) it was a little strange to pick a date when I don’t know.
We plan on getting married next time we go back to Greece in a small village where his father grew up. We were both born & raised in USA, he grew up on East Coast & I on West Coast… love knows no boundries. What’s kind of funny, out of all the whole country of Greece, our families were less than 6 miles apart! Sometime within a year and a half we will be married…just haven’t put a date on it, so I’m kind of in limbo & excited at the same time.
Good luck to you all on your journey of wedded bliss….and I’ll happily let you share my date!
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Hi, I’m new too, nice to meet you!
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@weddingclueless: Yup I’m also a waiting bee! I’m currently #210 on the list, I started out near 300! I also felt awkward choosing a wedding date when I’m not officially engaged and was also like ehhh this better not jinx me!! LOL! My SO is torturing me as the ring is in the house (he went shopping with my dad for it a couple weeks ago) but he’s waiting for a specific day. He’s mentioned Christmas and NYE but we also have an anniversary this coming Tuesday so who knows, either way I’m just waiting it out the best I can and haven’t uttered a word about weddings/engagements which is also HARD!
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@weddingclueless: Welcome! Congrats on your future engagement! 🙂
When you’re ready, I reccomend the book A Practical Wedding – it’s full of really good (kind of alternative) advice about wedding planning and beyond. You can pick it up now, it’s a pretty harmless book (it’s really based in explaining things to you like you’re a normal person, and not just The Bride)
It’s the only wedding book I bought and I often pick it up when I feel like things get hectic!
They also have a blog if you want to check that out, but the book is super handy to have.
The other thing I’m going to suggest is to not dive into wedding planning right after your get engaged.. FI and I did, we had NO CLUE what we were doing, and it really caused some major problems in our relationship (we’re OK now!)
My advice is to just plain enjoy your engagement for a few months (when it happens, of course)!
The wedding planning can wait, it’ll be there when you come back down from Cloud #9. 😛