Post # 1
I am currently waiting for my proposal. My SO already has the ring; he’s had it since before Thanksgiving. We picked it out together. I had been hoping for a proposal around the holidays but it did not happen. My dream proposal would be for him to ask when my family is around, as I am very close with my extended family. He has said he isn’t comfortable with that, which I respect. We had a conversation before New Years where I told him that I would be fine with a simple, quiet proposal with just the two of us. He agreed and I thought for sure it would happen on NYE or NY Day, since we mostly spent time alone. It didn’t happen.
Then, I thoght it might happen on our anniversary, which was January 5th. But…it didn’t! I’m just not sure of his hold up now. I have told him that I don’t expect a fancy, expensive proposal as money is tight. So not having money to take me to a fancy dinner or anything isn’t an excuse, since I don’t expect it! We’ve already discussed having a long engagement. I am graduating college in April and hope to have a job in my field soon after. So we wouldn’t even start planning until this summer, at the earliest. We’re looking at being engaged for 18+ months (or longer) before we tie the knot.
We’ve been together for 2 years…we’ve been living together for more than 1 year…he has already gotten my Dad’s blessing…he has the ring…we both agree on a long engagement…
So…what do you think his hold up is?? I am trying to be patient, but it is hard! Any advice?
Post # 3
Maybe since you two have decided you won’t even start planning til the summer, he doesn’t see a point in proposing long before then? Is he a practical guy?
Post # 4
I would try asking him. You don’t have to nag or be a pain about it… just try to find the right moment. Get a big bottle of wine, and open it up on a Saturday night. Ply him with alcohol, wait until he’s nice and relaxed and feeling good, and see if that will loosen him up and get him to spill the beans, LOL.
Post # 5
@winstonchurchill: He definitely knows I want to be engaged, even though we won’t start planning for awhile. My thought is, he has the ring…so why shouldn’t I get to wear it while we are waiting to plan/are planning a wedding.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
Well, I’d say he has something planned and he’s trying to surprise you – sooooo try and be patient!!
Just find something else to focus on! You know it’s going to happen really soon, and you know more than most waiting girls do before the proposal!
My SO knows what ring I want, he has a quote on how much it would cost, and that was in August. We just bought a house and we had a timeline discussion and it was just basically saying, not right after we just bought a house…. so I have no idea
Post # 7
@BelliniChic: hahahah that’s a good way of knowing what’s up!
Post # 8
@FutureMrsB105: I’m guessing he’s already had a plan?
Post # 9
Ugh, I hope he does it soon!
Post # 10
@FutureMrsB105: I bet he has something planned. I know I’ve had a few specific situations in my head that I thought were the right time, but you have to remember that if he is the one doing the proposal it might be something totally different than what you thought. I am sure he’s probably trying to surprise you, since he knows you know he has the ring. Just be patient, I know it’s hard, but you can do it!