Post # 1
I swear. I can’t escape it. I even had it in my blog recently, the questioning.
I had a comment recently when I vented about waiting, since he doesn’t want me to talk about it anymore. The comment was “You should ask yourself why you want to get married now, rather than later.”
Uh, you JUST subscribed to my blog. You don’t know how old we are (29-me, 32-him), what we’ve discussed,etc. I think a 29yr old woman who wants to get married within the year and has been dating a 32yr old man for 1yr and 10 months, with jobs, health insurance and a house is not unreasonable. Especially when the topic has been discussed and was brought up BY him and initiated BY him.
Argh. I just had a little vent ladies. I know now I need to make some posts private.
Post # 3
It’s a valid question, though–there are many reasons for wanting to get married, and it might be helpful for you to look at the REAL reason behind it. Is it really because you have a house? Or is that a shield for a deeper issue? Just some food for thought! Making your blog private might not be a bad idea, either.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t think of offering a comment about “why you want to get married?” That’s none of my, nor anyone else’s business.
What I will say though is “Why would you be surprised to get such comments from strangers on a public blog?”
Post # 5
@MsMamaBear: Wow that’s so rude to me. Maybe they were trying to be devil’s advocate though and trying to help you? My tone comes off wrong sometimes on the internet.
Post # 6
@MsMamaBear: To quote an 80’s/90’s sitcom star, “How rude!” I would have gotten snarky back, though. I’d have said, “um, well, this is the love of my life, and I want to live life to the fullest with him every second of every day. Who knows what tomorrow brings?”
Post # 7
@Wonderwoman217: Love the Full House reference!
Post # 8
@Treasure43: 🙂 I wondered how long it would take someone to catch it!
Post # 9
I would think the answer’s obvious. I would think it’s normal to want your relationship to progress towards that. In any case some ppl have no tact. Putting some post private mightn’t be a bad idea
Post # 10
There is no REAL reason why I want to marry my SO. It’s the same reason I’ve always wanted to marry him. Having a house has nothing to do with it. Just stated that and the fact that we have jobs with benefits, real savings, have degrees, etc. etc just to say, we aren’t young, still in college, figuring out where we want to be in life.
My blog isn’t private, but the only people who can comment are people who I have approved and are in another forum I am in, it’s only 10 women, so I was surprised she said that. Especially when most of the women have other blogs and we always support each other in other things. I guess I just prefer to say nothing than say something at all. Especially when I stated it was a vent and I didn’t need imput.
She could been playing devil’s advocate. I don’t know. You’re right, it could have been misread by me and I was just being sensitive. I know now to leave my vents for over here with the waiting ladies where it’s safe.
Wonderwoman- I really wanted to say something about life isn’t promised to no one, people die everyday, but I just ignored her. I should have just used your “how rude!”LOL
Picturemuers- It is obvious. I don’t understand how it would be a mystery to anyone.
But, yeah, just gonna start a second blog for vents on THAT subject matter.LOL
Thanks ladies for letting me vent. I was just like >.< before I went to church, now I’m like :).