Post # 1
My man (lets call him Mr. Nickle) and I started trying for a baby in August and we both agreed that we were alright with having a baby together without being married. Then my wonderful loving Mr. Nickle decided to ask me to marry him at the end of August! Which is wonderful! Well I figured it would take a few months for us to get pregnant and I was considering stoping trying so we could plan out the wedding and then have baby, well I am pregnant!! SO excited!!
But now I don’t know what to do. The most important thing about the wedding to me is my dress and marrying the man of my dreams. I don’t care about the decorations or the flowers or anything else really. We were planning on having a Destination wedding in January 2013. But Do I really want to take a 8 month old to the Doninical Republic? Would you? I don’t want to push the wedding off any farther than that tho and I don’t think I would be comfortable leaving him/her at home for a week at that point. Also I need lots of time to order my dress and I can’t order it now because what if it doesn’t fit after baby?
Should I just settle and have a little get together here?
Now that I am engaged I want to be married to him. I love the idea of being Mr and Mrs Nickle. *sigh* and I would so settle for a small wedding here before baby … But I don’t really want to sacrifice “The Dress”
So then I am thinking after baby… But I don’t know how hard it will be to lose my baby fat, which also results in not having “The Dress”. I know it is really kinda selfish of me to think that way. And I feel really bad about it and I have tried to wrap my head around giving up my dress ……….. I have also tried wraping my head around waiting for a couple years. But I don’t like either of those ideas.
Just tell me what you think?
Post # 3
AS someone who got married a few weeks ago and is in my last month of pregnancy I can understand those concerns….Is there a particular dress you fell in love with? I personally did not get my dream dress or wedding but had elements of what I wanted and I was prefectly happy with my wedding. Was it exactly what I dreamed of, no. But it was a day I was happy with and in the end none of it mattered.
Post # 4
How far along are you? If you don’t want to sacrifice the dress – I would try to get married ASAP! Since you’re planning on a destination wedding anyway try to do it in the next 3 months before the bump comes or shows too much.
I don’t think vacationing with baby is going to be easy. This way you guys can relax a little better without worrying about baby.
Post # 5
Depending on what is “the dress”, you might be able to get it ordered and have it arrive in a month or so. Meaning you could do the Dominican in 2012 before the baby comes. If I recall correctly, your estimated due date isn’t until June, so you might just need to order the dress a size or two larger than what you wear now.
I ordered my dress a year out . . . and it showed up a month later. So I had to wait for 11 months before I could wear it.
Post # 6
You can’t get married now? Or in 3 months or so? Can you find a sample or off the rack dress you love? Then you can do everything you want and the baby can tag along, but just inside 🙂
Post # 7
I just had my baby and I’m a waiting bee and will leave our baby at home, per his request.O(he thinks it’s a waste of money.lol) I don’t see a problem taking a baby, but you might want to be alone.
Post # 8
Personally I would get married!
You have the man of your dreams and a beautiful gift of a baby. If you wanted to wait for after the baby, you may have to wait longer than you think and you will be in a totally different mindset. Traveling with or without baby may be too much!
Post # 9
Do the dominican this January with a cute cheap white dress and after baby is born buy your dream dress for a at-home reception??
Post # 10
We were going to get married next year, when we found out we were pregnant in August. We decided to get married this year. I will be about 18 weeks then. I found a dress that I totally love and our wedding is going to be awesome, i’m sure.
Whatever you decide to do will be fine:) good luck with your decision!