Post # 1
So I went to Jared today to look at wedding bands. I originally told them I want a plain white gold band to go with my 1 ct. solitaire ring. They said: Ok, well we will actually have to bring you over to the men’s section to look at those type of bands. We don’t have any in the women’s section. They then convinced me to look at eternity bands with small diamonds going around. I did like the look of the eternity band, but seriously!? They really know how to get a girl to feel bad about not wanting bling!
Post # 3
Don’t worry about those jewellery sales people. They’re almost always awful. Just ignore them and get what you love! I think plain metal is so beautiful, and actually a fair few women have them, just in smaller widths. It’s classy and understated and screw you, jewellery store guy!
I had to repeat NO CHANNEL SET DIAMONDS like, 5 times in one store. “Yes, I know they’re more secure. I hate how it looks. This one? This is also channel set. No. I said no channel set. I don’t care that the diamonds are closer together on it. Can I see that shared prong one? Please?”
Post # 4
I had the same problem with jewelry stores. I didn’t want diamonds. Or at the very least, only wanted one or a few diamonds. I actually had one particularly audacious sales woman tell me that every woman wants diamonds, I just didn’t know it yet.
Post # 5
They’re just trying to make their commission. Have you checked out eweddingbands.com? They have many options and are very affordable… And no snarky sales associate to tell you what you want or don’t want 😉
Post # 6
I had the same issue looking at wedding bands. My FH and I went to six different jewelry stores looking for wedding bands, and every sales person “ignored” my request to only look at plain white gold bands. It was frustrating, because all of the women’s bands looked alike, were way out of my budget, and were not at all what I wanted. I ended up ordering my wedding band from Overstock.com.
Btw, at Kay, they don’t even display their plain gold bands in their cases, you have to ask to see them.
Post # 7
Oh, and another story, that happened to a friend of mine: her engagement ring is actually a wedding band with three very small diamonds in it. As her wedding band she just wanted a thin, white gold band. She had one sales woman tell her that her engagement ring is a wedding band and it would look weird and people would find it strange. Then tried to convince her to buy an engagement ring instead…
ETA: Written out that way, it doesn’t seem so terrible, but I gather the woman was quite rude about it and really had an attitude.
Post # 8
@hill42: The Jared here is AWFUL. We went in looking for wedding bands also, and FI finally found one that he actually liked. I kept asking the sales associate how thick that particular band was, and the guy just would NOT tell me. He kept dodging the question and was flat out ignoring me, all while pressuring FI to buy the band then and there. We left and never went back – who the hell would want to give someone like that commission money?
Post # 9
@Talon: That is insane! I know they are trying to make commission money, but when they flat out don’t listen to my requests and try to make me feel bad about not wanting a million diamonds, I can’t stand it! She was literally showing us wedding bands that were $2,000 + …CRAZY
Post # 10
Just ignore them and get what you like. My gold and platinum band was considered a “mens ring” My husband and I actually have the same band. My husband liked the idea of matching rings, and diamonds were not in my budget anyway. Some day I wouldn’t mind an anniversery band to layer for some more sparkle. Sales people tend to get pushy for commision and bigger sales. They don’t realize you would be a happier customer and more open to ideas if they would actually listen to what you want.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@hill42: Plain bands are unisex and because they want to make big sales (and women’s rings have the biggest price tags usually), some jewelry stores don’t even set out plain bands in the women’s wedding jewelry section. He was trying to give you and/or your FI a dig to encourage you to buy a more elaborate (i.e. expensive) wedding band.
Post # 12
I initially looked at plain bands and they had to go get them from the back. The sales person made a big deal of it, like it was bothersome. Don’t sweat the sales tactics, just get whatever you want 🙂
Post # 13
That happened to me too!! They were incredibly rude about the fact that I didn’t want diamonds, like that NEVER happens. I ended up getting mine (both of them) online, and they were exactly what I wanted. And cheaper!!
Post # 14
I’d be like all “Oh, do you need to bring me to the men’s section because I INTIMIDATE YOU? NO?… I CAN WORK ON THAT.”
But really, what a horrible marketing ploy. Why go to a place that treats you like that? 🙁
Post # 15
I found a similar problem when I made the mistake of going into Bailey Banks and Biddle while we were e-ring shopping. I told the lady that I wanted a “solitaire with an interesting band.” Somehow she must not have understood the definition of solitaire, because she kept showing me bands effing covered in tiny diamonds in tons of different ways, refusing to believe that I could want a ring that literally had one diamond on it. Needless to say, we chose another store.
Funny story: Technically, FI’s wedding band is coming from the WOMEN’S section. We want the same plain band, and his finger is slender (size 6), so his ring is listed on the company’s website under women’s. Oops.
Post # 16
oh boy, i hope you’re not giving me a look into my future. I have thought of getting a plain band since I’ll be a nurse and I’ve heard that gross gunk gets stuck between the diamonds.