A wedding for everyone but me

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2022

I’m right there with ya! I’m having an extremely bad “waiting” week… Last weekend we were at the wedding of a couple who started dating the same week as us so everyone compares us to them. Also, my ex-best friend that has only been dating her boyfriend for a year got engaged this weekend. On top of that.. we have 3 more weddings to go to this summer/fall and they’ve ALL been dating for at least a year less than us… sigh, what can you do? I’m trying my best not to be noticeably crabby around SO, but it’s difficult sometimes..

 

Post # 5
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1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

On the other side of things, I’ve seen 3 divorces and 1 failed engagment in the last 6 months 🙁

Post # 6
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73 posts
Worker bee

@ChelsBea:  

@RockyTop15:  

I am so right there with the 2 of you!  My best friend got engaged a week ago, AND they started dating at the exact same time my SO and I did!  To add to that, my SO’s brother is getting married in a month or so (his gf is pregnant so it’s very last minute), his cousin is getting married in 2 weeks, he has a friend getting married in Sept, 2 more friends and another cousin in Oct.  Just UGH!!!!!!!!!  Feels like i’m being taunted and it will never happen for me.  He makes it worse, too, telling me he’s not ready and it doesn’t feel right, and then talking about who will be at our wedding, or making a toast to the rest of our lives together.  Can.not.deal.

/Rant

Post # 7
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m really finding this too. I have a lot of excitement going on at the moment (new job, moving in with SO) but for some reason it’s making it play on my mind even more! It’s ridiculous!

Post # 8
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573 posts
Busy bee

@ChelsBea:  Yes definitely.  I graduated from uni 2 years ago now, but it seems all of those friends graduating this year (whowere only first years to me in mylast year), and are getting engaged like there’s no tomorrow.For them though, it’s a logical step as they all live in dfferent cities to their SOs so it’s a case of making a committment to unite. However, it does make me feel a little green considering I see them as “2 years behind me” as ridiculois as that sounds.

Also, last month my old housemate from uni got engaged, when had only been with SO 11 months.  That’s fine, and I am very happy for her, however this time last year I’d been with SO for some time and we were talking about how she was still single and ready to be in a relationship.  It was a bit strange; I felt a little left behind.

Regarding SO, we have a sort-of timeline which like another PP, changes: “Not yet, for XYZ but I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you, cant wait to live with you, can’t wait until I can call you Mrs M….”  Itmakes me giddy when we do talk of it but he has firmly said the proposal is his domain.  However, the mulitple engagements on facebook are serving a small purpose: I causually congratulate those old uni friends and it appears on SO’s feed, as a small hint 😛

Post # 9
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372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ChelsBea:  Me too… We are supppose to get engaged this vacation and he just said something in general “I dont know if we get to this point” meaning that he already knows if he brought ring with him nd thus if we are getting engaged or not… I was so much hoping for this proposal… if he does not proposose on this cacation, then i am sure i dont want to be with somebody who does not know after 6 years. ;((((((((((

Post # 10
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@memo:  I agree!!

it’s a lil irritating seeing others getting engaged especially some that wasn’t expected. 2 of my former classmates from high school are married or about to be this summer.  In the same breath, the married ladies I work with are ALWAYS miserable and upset with their husbands. Some of them are my age (24 years) and are as old as in their 40’s. 

About 4 of my friends are already divorced and I’ve even seen their ex’s out and about with the child they share and their new leading lady. 

Some of them love the glory of saying they are married while i’m just here being happy with my SO.

Post # 11
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258 posts
Helper bee

@memo:  I feel bad for a coworker of mine. Three of the girls in the offce got enaged in the last 2 months and 4 of the guys wifes are about to have babies. And she just found out she is getting a divorce.

 

Post # 12
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353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@ChelsBea:  The same seems to be happening around me… People who have been together for a few months getting engaged and married… I’m SUPER JEALOUS!

Of course, I wish them the best in life, but still, I’m so jealous…

Our day will come, for sure, but we will have to wait!!

Post # 13
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699 posts
Busy bee

@ChelsBea:  wow, lots of weddings around you, that happened to me in 2011. 3 weddings in one year. i thought matt would step up but it kinda had the opposite effect, he saw how crazy everyone got closer to the date & he kinda closed up, lol. i just gotta get him to elope & then things’ll be fine, lol!!!!

Post # 14
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4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I am a little bit, but on the other hand, I’m in Guatemala for the summer and I’m starting grad school, plus dbf started a new job, so it’s not as if there isn’t excitement and new beginnings for us as well. I’m zen at the moment but who knows how long it will last?

Post # 15
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

I am anxious too but at the same time, I don’t want to get married at the same time that EVERYONE ELSE is.  It would be more special if we waited until things calmed down on the marriage front, so I am willing to.

Post # 16
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

everyone around me is getting married or engaged too. we just went on a vacation with another couple(friends of ours). It was just the 4 of us on the trip and the guy proposed to his gf in front of us and we had no idea he was planning to. We were just a suprised as his gf was. And i thought having to see engagement announcements on fb were torture enough! this took the cake. imagine having your friends do it in front of you with no heads up on your vacation and then having to spend your vacation celebrating with them. Dont get me wrong, super duper happy for them and know my time will come but i would be lying if it didnt make me alittle emotional!

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