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    gracie727    May 25, 2012   Illinois

    So the FI and I are not huge cake fans. Especially those with the thick frosting and gooey sugary insides. So we have opt to ditch the cake and instead have a dessert table. The idea is, when we send out our invitations we are going to include a little card that asks them to bring their favorite desert recipes and if they are willing, bake it bring it with to share! So I'll have a table set up so we can display all the goodies. I will also have a binder or recipe box so they can drop those off too.

    What do you guys thinks? Will this work?!

    I already plan on baking 2 or 3 things. My soon to be MIL will donate as well as a few friends. So I know I'll have plenty- incase no one brings anything.

     
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    SouthernTulip    October 23, 2010   Georgia

    I think that sounds like a really awesome and unique idea!  I also think that it would really help your guests to feel very involved in your wedding day :)

    -Best-

     
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    mishelleez    November 5, 2010   DW- Bahamas

    This is a great idea! I am totally a fosting lover (I wanted an all frosting cake!)

    Our venue has desserts included in our package and they were 100000 times better then the cake we had picked out so we canceled it. I dont think anyone will miss it

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I think that is a wonderful idea. If I didn't have so many out-of-state and out-of-country guests coming, I would totally do that.

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    That's an AWESOME idea! I absolutely love it :)

    For the recipes, I would ask your guests to e-mail it to you a month before the wedding (three weeks at the latest), so that you can perhaps take on one last DIY project:

    You could create recipe cards, and create about 50 of each maybe? And stack them next to each dessert that people bring. That way, if guests really like that particular dessert, they can take a recipe card home with them. If you run out, have a little card at the end of each pile that says, "Oh no! This recipe was too popular, and all the recipe cards are gone! However, if you'd like, please e-mail [whoever] for details, and they'll be sure you get the recipe."

    ETA: If any guests include information about the recipe, like if it's an old family recipe, or something they make for certain occasions, you could create signs that explain it all, too.

    And also, label each dessert with who brought what :)

     
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    heatherrobyn    April 2, 2011  

    I AM DOING THE EXACT SAME THING!

    i totally don't like cake, and neither does the FI, and we both think the whole cake cutting and feeding each other thing is a little bit corny.

    instead, we are having a dessert table with lots of frosted sugar cookies in our colors, candy, and different desserts and pies that some of our guests will be bringing! LOVE IT!

    and this is an opportunity to decorate the dessert table really cool... you can make it really cute!!!

     
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    FallFlowers      

    Sounds like a fun idea!  Logistically, I have some questions though.  Are your ceremony & reception at the same venue?  If so, I could see this working well.  If not, would they need to leave their dessert in the car during the ceremony?  I could see some problems with this, especially if it's a hot day.  If it's not at the same venue, could they bring them inside the ceremony venue and have someone charged with transporting all desserts to the reception venue so that they're stored in appropriate temperatures?

     
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    Carpie    May 28, 2011  

    I think a dessert table would be fine but I don't know if I would have my guests cater it. It's an interesting idea but maybe more so for a shower, that could be fun...a desert themed shower.

    Many venues we looked at did not allow anything to be brought in with the exeption cake from a liscensed baker.

     
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    nenalibre1    June 21, 2013   South Jersey

    Dessert table is awesome but I dont think id ask anyone to actually bring anything. & what would they do with it during the ceremony?? Asking them to email recipes is a cool idea.

     
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    MissBuffalo    November 2011  

    So this is going to sound bad, but I've never eaten cake at any wedding I've ever been to?

    The last wedding I was too busy dancing and must have missed it while they were passing it out? I didn't miss much.

    Maybe you could have a small cake that you can cut? Just so you have pictures of it.

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    We wanted to do something similar... my mom nixed it! lol. Sounds like fun  though :)

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    I think it's a fun idea! I think like others said, as long as they're not carrying it around during the ceremony, it should be fine. And the way you're making it seem it's not like you are telling them they HAVE to bring something. I know as a guest, I would have fun baking a dessert for someone's wedding.

     
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    cakegal    August 14, 2010  

    I love cake, but if you want to have something different that's your choice.But, I really don't think you should ask guests to bring dessert.

     
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    Selene221    October 31, 2012  

    Cake is traditional, yes, but never required. As long as you have a yummy alternative, guests won't notice that the cake is not there. Don't stress over it.

     
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    lovebird1981       CT

    I say if you don't like cake don't have cake. I agree with those above about having to leave it in the car if the ceremony is at a different location. But are you wanting deserts as gifts instead of traditional gifts? I dk if guests are going to want to lug a dessert and a gift so they may opt for the gift over bringing an actual dessert or via versa. I say ask for the recipes defiantly, but maybe not the potluck dessert. Just a thought. 

     
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    menobride    June 5, 2011   NH

    Definitely fun! Make sure people bring multiple copies of the recipes.

     
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    MadameLady    May 18, 2012  

    I love it! I'm always looking for an excuse to bake XD

     
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    rlsulli1598@verizon.net       oregon

    I got favorite recipes at my wedding shower.  I still have them, nearly 30 years later!  :)

     
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    sand dollar    September 25, 2010   Lake Jackson

    Do it! I hate cake too, and you can always have that "cake cutting" moment with any kind of dessert

     
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    Randi156    December 18, 2013  

    @gracie727: I think that sounds like a great idea! Saves you some money too.  Your wedding sounds like it is going to be a fun place to be!

     
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    Fixin2BMrs.Awesome    May 12, 2012   Springfield, OR

    I just commented on a similar post. LOL FH hates cake (more like frosting) so we are thinking of adding a cheesecake bar. It is inexpensive and fun! I LOVE the recipe card ideas for guests to take home! Heck, I may have to use that!

     
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    KateByDesign    October 29, 2011   Fairfax, Virginia

    I'm doing pie instead of cake!  I do love cake but since our wedding is in October, I think it's much more fitting!

    Great idea!

     

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