Post # 1
1 week until my wedding and I had a huge meltdown recently. I had my final dress fitting yesterday and just realized how uncomfortable I feel with my arms and back showing so much. I rarely show my arms and am almost always wearing a cardigan or longer sleeves. I knew when I got engaged that I would probably want to try to cover my arms somehow.
Once I found “the one”, I decided that I didn’t want to cover up! I felt beautiful and I really feel that adding sleeves or a bolero almost draws more attention to the fact that you are embarrassed about how you look.
Since it’s only 1 week until the wedding I know I can’t add sleeves or do much for losing weight/toning. I was thinking maybe adding a long veil to cover my back and shoulders a bit?
For reference, here’s me in my dress before alterations –
I don’t know if I’m just stressing more because we’re out own worst critic or because I’m just not used to being so exposed! For those who felt self conscious about their arms/back in a strapless dress did you feel better on the actual day? Did you use a cover up? Thanls!
Post # 3
You are DEFINITELY your own worst critic! They look FINE.
Just remember not to press them against your body in pictures!
Post # 4
@vivalakarly: First of all, that dress looks amazing on you. I was concerned about my back and arms too. I’m very self conscious about them, but I decided to not cover up anyways. My dress had small straps that I wore for the ceremony and removed for the reception. You know what? I felt AMAZING on my wedding day. I didn’t even think about it! Even when the eye hook thingy on the back of my dress snapped off before we even started taking pictures I didn’t stress. You will look beautiful on your wedding day. I promise no one will be looking at your arms or back. They will be looking at an absolutely stunning bride!
Post # 5
@vivalakarly: Gosh lady, you look lovely. In fact if it wasn’t for the exchange rate I’d offer to buy that dress off you when you are done with it. Rock it!
Post # 6
@vivalakarly: you look gorgeous and definitely don’t need to be so hard on yourself! I second brandnewbride and be aware of your arms in photos and don’t press them against your body.
Post # 7
A friend of mine had the same problem with her dress and was very concerned/worried about it. She did two things- 1. She got tanned- she said tanned fat looks better than pale fat. 2. She wore a veil for the ceremony- she thought it was a nice cover up and it made her feel better about it. The day of, she had an amazing time!! If a veil will make you feel confident, then go for it. I think the day of, the tought won’t even cross your mind. And I just wanted to say that I think you are being too hard on yourself- you are beautiful and the dress is beautiful!
Post # 8
You look beautifull:) As someone who is also self conscious about her arms, take it from me, you do not need to cover them up!! 🙂
Post # 9
Hey fellow Canadian, we’re getting married on the same day and have the same issue. I’m a cow, I hate my arms and back and am really worried about them ruining my pics and looking bad. I got a chiffon wrap, light and some coverage but not too heavy, it doesnt hide them completely by it sure helps.
Good luck…8 days to go!
Post # 10
@vivalakarly: you look perfect! Your arms are not big AT ALL! I have HUGE arms, like big fat elbow flab arms so I know what big arms are and I would looooove yto have your arms! I am worried about my back fat too. I cant see your back in this photo but jus judging from your shape I think you’ll be fine. Your finace’ loves you and im sure he thinks EVERY part of you is drop dead gorgeous. Just in enjoy your day. Non of the back fat and arm stuff will even matter 🙂
Post # 11
You are worrying too much love! You look really beautiful in the dress and honestly…your arms don’t look bad to me at all! If you would be more comfortable, then by all means get a shrug or jacket of some kind. (Davids brid al has a pretty nice selection). My personal opinion? Don’t stress. Dont worry. Dont concern yourself with worrying about minor flaws you percieve. You are getting married! Bask in the glow, in the day, in the experience of it all.
You look super beautiful (honestly). So stop being coo koo! 🙂
Best of luck to u and yours!
Post # 12
It’s a week before your wedding. You can’t change the physical shape of your body by then… and your soon to be DH wants to marry you how you look. I’d let it go. I did let it go, I was probably my heaviest at my wedding and about a month before I said “screw it”… I’ve got enough stress and he wants me as is, how awesome!
My advice: get a shaw or a throw (or whatever they call them… believe it or not I suck at this girl stuff). My dress came with a sheer …. something, I forget what my friend called it …. but it was about 6′ long and 6″ wide and the same color as my dress. It was just enough to cover but still show skin under it. And I got to play with it, twirl it, pull DH in with it, whomp him on the head (we’re that kind of couple lol). It was just enough to not make me feel like I was not “OMG Fat!” (which is really how I felt about my body at that point). I called it my toy… since it had so many uses. Not only those mentioned but I’m a jeans and T-shirt girl, even my work pants were mens so they had real hand sized pockets… and I hadn’t worn a dress in years. My hair wasn’t long enough to twirl, so I don’t know what I’d have done with my hands otherwise :).
TLDR: You look fine in the dress, you’re your worst critic (typically we all are!). He already wants to marry you and he’s the one who matters! But there’s nothing wrong with having something to cover if you want, even if you barely wear it, you’ll feel better for the option!
Post # 13
You look gorgeous, but it you are feeling insecure in it, I say snag yourself a nice shawl to drape over your shoulders if you get to feeling uncomfortable. I 100% support brides feeling comfortable and confident on their wedding day. Do whatever it takes for you to get there.