Post # 1
Something struck me today that made me realize how quickly this past year has gone. At this time last year I was planning our wedding, fretting over a dress, planning our “at-home”reception and worrying about tons of details. So how did it all work out?
In retrospect, my biggest regret was my choice of dress. I hate it and feel stupid for not thinking more creatively. I hated the way I looked in it. I’ve seen at least a dozen dress choices that would have been so much easier and prettier.
Second biggest regret: losing $2500 on a house rental in the Bahamas and falling victim to an unscrupulous home-owner. Long story – but he left a bad taste in my mouth for the Bahamas. Who has $2500 to lose?
However, none of these things really mattered. I married an amazing man, on a beautiful beach, surrounded by so much love from people who love us. Nearly a year later all I wish is that I hadn’t worried so much.
So bees, here’s my tiny bit of advice: don’t fret so much about the details that you make yourself crazy. Make sure you’re making the right choice in a partner. A year from now, that’s all that will really matter 🙂
Post # 3
@lorie: Good advice! 🙂 Hope you’re enjoying married life!!
Post # 4
@lorie: Very wise words 🙂 It can be hard to put things into perspective when you’re right there in the midst of it, i know i catch myself out getting crazy on stupid things like what sort of chairs for the ceremony or what colour sashes and whether guests will like x favour or x favour, but have to keep remembering as long as i marry my FI the day has been a success!
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice. I’ve been in enough weddings to realize this now for my own. But it doesn’t hurt to be reminded by an outside source.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
So very true. In the end, picking the “wrong” dress doesn’t matter. But picking the wrong partner…. well that’s gonna suck for a very long time. Choose wisely, engaged bees. And if in doubt about the partner, postpone or cancel the wedding. If you have any hesitations about HIM, just don’t do it!
Post # 7
Great advise! There are def things I think about approaching our one year anniversary as well. Oh well ya live and ya learn, and now we have what we wanted in the end 🙂
Post # 8
@lovekiss: Yes! I spent 25 years married to the wrong man and it’s only now, at 54, that I realize so many things about my life and choices. If I could tell my younger self anything (as if I would listen, lol) it would be to make sure you’re truly cherished, respected and even adored at times by your choice in a man. All the stuff that goes into making a wedding has little to do with the big thing: the actual marriage.
Post # 10
Such good advice- thank you!!
Post # 11
@lorie: Sweet. Thank you for sharing!