(Closed) Aaaaaaaargh!!!! [Last minute cancellations]

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

@sarahbabs:  Sorry to hear. I hope they have very good reasons for cancelling 4 days before!

Post # 4
12878 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh no!  I hope they aren’t just flaking out!  🙁

Post # 5
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sorry. Frown It’s hard to believe that all three couples have a true emergency that would explain this behavior. From what I’ve read this pretty much happens to everyone and it is just part of the cost of throwing a wedding celebration, as much as I can’t understand why people would cancel at the last minute without a truly compelling reason. Everyone says you don’t think about the no-shows on the day of, so try not to stress about this too much.

Post # 6
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

At least it is early enough to not set their places. I always feel bad seeing empty seats at weddings 🙁

Post # 7
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m sorry to hear that, hopefully they have a decent reason for bailing last minute.  Hang in there!

Post # 8
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ugh, I came SO CLOSE to going on a murderous rampage on all the last minute cancellation people…  And that group includes some people I really like!

Hang in there.  Take a deep breath, eat a piece of chocolate, and then move along.

Post # 10
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Aww, I’m sorry! We had about 15 people that RSVP’d yes just plain not show up the night of. No warning, never got any excuse out of them. It took me months before I stopped thinking rageful thoughts at them – we lost quite a chunk of money paying for them!

I second the chocolate. Maybe throw some wine in there. :p Wine helps everything!

Post # 11
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so sorry!  That totally sucks.  Is there any way you can contact your venue and maybe have that money go to other things (i.e. small upgrades?)

Post # 12
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That’s so strange to me when people RSVP yes then cancel. I have to admit, I’ve done it once – but I woke up the day before the wedding with a horrible sinus infection and it would have been a four hour drive to the wedding for me. I felt really bad, but there was no way I would have been up for the drive.

At a friend’s wedding over the weekend, this girl I know from college (she’s my arch nemesis, but that’s beside the point Wink) RSVPed yes and then ended up not showing (she had an escort card which is how I noticed). After doing some detective work I found out that she didn’t show because she couldn’t get off work the following day. Um, that’s the type of thing you find out before you RSVP, dingbat. Just another reason for me to not like this girl.

Post # 13
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@sarahbabs:  i’m sorry to hear that.  i know that it sucks having to pay for last minute no’s.  luckily, i had a small wedding so i only had one last minute no.  my sister broke up with her bf a few days prior to wedding.  i didn’t want to pay for an extra meal so i told my son that he could invite his best friend. 

don’t focus on the no shows, focus on those that do come.

Post # 14
23636 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Aww, sweetie! I was totally going through this in the final days leading up to our wedding day!  I definitely still hold a little grudge against people who cancelled on our wedding day, admittedly.  Hopefully you can get past it and enjoy your perfect day just the same!  Big hugs to you!

Post # 15
1190 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry! some people just suck.

I had about 5 people cancel last minute as well. It worked out kind of because 3 people showed up who weren’t supposed to…so we only paid for 2 unoccupied seats.

Still sucks though!

Post # 16
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

2 people (a couple cancelled on us yesterday, but our final numbers don’t go in until 5:30 pm today, exactly 48 hrs before the wedding. Have theor meals sent to your room for a late night anack (or in a doggy bag if you’re not having a hotel reception).

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