- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Ok so originally I was going to have 3 flower girls, my two nieces and FI’s cousin daughter. FI cousin is close to the his family. When I first met her I thought she was really cool and her kids are adorable so to try and incorporate his side in to our wedding I asked his cousin if her youngest daughter age 8-9 could be in the wedding. She said yes and the little girl was excited b/c she is in to pretty dresses and hair. So I come to find out that Cousin is a little bipolar and is her anger is easily triggered. So she is constantly fighting with FI’s aunt (her mom) and with my FMIL. So around Christmas time 09, she got in to a fight with FMIL and her mom when visiting. Cousin was very disrespectable and really dramatic about the whole situation that she started and left. So a couple of days later FI receives a text message stating “We are not coming to the wedding. Don’t worry we will send a good gift. Don’t count on x to be a flowergirl.”
Ok I was more hurt than anything and mad that she would do this. And i don’t care about the gift! Her issue was not with us so why would she not come to the wedding and do that to her daughter? We told FI’s parents and they also though it was unfortunate for cousin to act this way. So months pass. This weekend I found out that FI’s mom told her sister (Cousins mom) about this and last week on her visit to Cousin brought it up. Aunt said so are you guys going to the wedding so I can purchase all of your plane tickets? Cousin says yeah we plan to go. Then aunt says of is X still going to be a flower girl? Cousin says (and this is what annoyed me most) I don’t know Kiki hasn’t said anything about it since she asked last year?
Grrrrr ok. So FI spoke with his mom yesterday and this is when we found this all out. His mom also called Cousin and confirmed cousin was still planning on x being a flowergirl. FMIL says that cousin pretends to forget mean things she says all the time and act normal after.
My main concern is that if FI and I say yes she can be in, what if cousin goes nutty buddy again and pulls the same bs and pulls her daughter out of the wedding right before the wedding? That would upset us. I can tell FI’s mom wants the lil girl in the wedding and says that wont happen again yet months earlier said it just might. So what do I do? Let her back in???