(Closed) Aaarrgh! Need Advice on Friend’s Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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3943 posts
Honey bee

Yes, I would be annoyed too. I also wouldnt have bought a second dress just because she changed her mind.

I think by “boxed gifts” they mean big huge gifts that would be difficult to pack and take home with them on the plane. A jewlery set is small (and also a very nice gift), so I think its fine.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would be annoyed also.  I think it’s very rude to basically ask for money on the invite.  However, are you talking about the jewelry for a wedding gift?  Jewelry is not really appropriate as a wedding gift because it should be something for the couple.

Post # 5
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9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

You totally have the right to be annoyed but try not to let it get to you. She probably doesn’t realize that this is posing a problem for you. I would just give her the jewely and not stress about it. It’s not like you’re expecting her to carry a crock-pot in her luggage. I think jewlery is actually perfect because it’s small. If she says anything about it, explain the situation and, if she’s a good friend, I’m sure she’ll understand.

Post # 7
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow…You’re a great friend! I would save your gold and get creative. Give her something you can make, maybe make a mr & mrs sign for her wedding and home later. Look around on the DIY boards, even if she’s hoping for cash she can’t be upset if you give her something she can use for the wedding. I seriously don’t want you to spend anymore money, I will send you the supplies or make it for you myself!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it is very rude to put on the invite “no boxed gifts.” Coming from the brides point of view (since I’m a destination wedding bride too) you could have told her that you already had something planned and that it is expensive and you just can’t afford to attend/be in th wedding. I know I understand that a destination wedding is a lot to ask of people and I’m sure if she is a good friend that she would/SHOULD understand that!

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