- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I was bullied in high school.
I was raised in a back asswards hick town where girls had to take food studies or beauty culture and boys had to take wood shop or auto mechanics. I fought the school board on this and lost.
I didn’t listen to country music. I didn’t ‘fit in’.
So I was bullied.
There were 3 girls who were relentless. They would spit in my hair, spread nasty rumours, push me around, and they graffitied my locker with hateful words. They made high school a very painful time for me.
I saw one of these 3 girls today. I was at a craft fair with friends in my home town, 14 hours away from the wretched town where I grew up. I turned and saw this girl running a booth. My heart stared racing, my mind immediately shot back to the time where she used to torment me…. then suddenly it shot to my amazing life with my lucrative career, my amazing husband and my complete happiness.
I walked up to this girl, and she was immediately stunned, “Oh, hey, how are you doing?” she exclaimed in a false happy tone…. my heart was racing… I replied, “I’m fantastic, thanks, how are you?”.
“Oh, not too bad, so do you live here now?”
“how do you like it here?” She asked, with a forced tone, trying to appear professional.
“Oh, I love it, I’ve never been happier”
“So what are you doing here?”
“I have a great career, just got married, I’m doing incredible, thanks. Are you still in shithole hometown?’
“yeah, for now, but wanting to get out”.
“Well, it’s great to see you, I’ll let you get back to work. It was great seeing you, good luck with everything.” I said with a giant smile.
She reluctantly replied, “yeah, good to see you too.”
I have never felt so powerful! I was able to release so many demons that I’ve been harbouring for years. Showing her that I’ve overcome the hatred she bestowed on me, and made something of myself just felt so good. I don’t know if I interpreted her actions correctly, but at this point, I don’t care. I feel so good right now. I wish I had the power years ago to convey to her that she didn’t matter to me. She couldn’t hold me down. I was far better than the town and the people who tried to tell me I was worthless because I wasn’t like them.
Bullying has got a lot more viscous and far spread since I was in high school. Cyber bullying has brought it to a much higher and more powerful level. We all need to stand behind these victims and let them know they can break through and conquor this.
I wanted to share my story, and I want each and every one of you who reads this to take this to heart, and do something. If you see someone being bullied, be it your kids, or a co-worker or anyone else, please stand up and say something. Act as a warrior for these victims, teach them to smile in the face of their bullies, and don’t let them get pushed around. Let them become successful, beautiful adults instead of victims.